2 little issues - no not them, lol !

Hiya all !

I'm new on here ( Literally just joined a few moments ago ! ) and I'm hopeful that someone may be able to give me some advice with two issues I have ;

1 - I have a "Phobia" ( Not sure if that is the word ! ) of Semen. I'm totally in love with my man and we have been togethher a few years, but in that time he has never been able to do the things he likes such as ; ejaculate over my breasts or inside me. Infact, did one have an incident where the condom popped and obviousley, he "Filled me up" but I felt so disgusting when we found out afterwards. And although I LOVE giving oral, I can't possibly imagine doing it without a condom incase of leakages. I feel repulsedby the fact of having millions of sperm on me / in me. I want to change this so he can enjoy himself more,bless him he has been so patient in waiting for me to sort this problem. If you have any ideas how I can adjust my thoughts on this, both I and he would appriciate it :) .

2- I have a strange fetish - I like Tickle Torture. The thought of being tied and or blindfolded and teased by tickling is so erotic in my mind. It feels incredably sexy to me ( as well as funny! ) There are ways of doing it so it's sensual and pleasureable. My ex was great with it and would often engage in it, but I doubt this would happen with my partner,as he is not very experimental sexually. I have tried to push it to one side but I'm missing it. I have secretly brought myself TIckle Porn for when I am masterbating and its good,but I would love to share thiswith my man. How can I suggest this to him without seeming strange ?? Does anyone else share this liking ??

Thanks for reading.

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Hello and welcome looking yummy and a Happy New Year!

I'm guessing you are pretty young here as I find the semen phobia more of a younger women thing. . .I may be wrong though! (not the first time lol) I think it's something that you've just got to get used to and will with time or you just have to live with it. The way to get around any phobia in my experience is to tackle it head on and experience it, the more you do this the more you get used to it. One of the girls from here will probably give you more of an insight than I can though. I'm sure they'll be along soon.

The Tickle Torture- just sit your bloke down and explain to him what you want and how much it would mean to you and make you feel good and I'm sure he would enjoy it too! I'm into tying my OH up and know how exciting and how the trust involved brings you as a couple closer together. You could buy him a suede flogger to get him involved as this gives more of a tickle sensation rather than a sting and he may like the feeling of being in control, walking around you, flogging your body gently and knowing you are loving it is even better for him! I'd just tell him what I want, commumication is the key Yummy!

Best Wishes

SG69 x

Hiya, i totally agree with SG69. Could you maybe start to try things like if your partner could come on something and then you try to touch it a couple of times until you are ok with that and then he could come on your hand and so on. I think if you really want to get over it you have just got to take it slowly.

As for the tickle torture i think SG69 has pretty much covered it! Good luck! xx

Thank you for the reply !!

Happy New Year to you too !!

You are correct with your assumption, I'm in my twentys - so not that old I hope, lol !!

I understand what you are saying - tackle the phobia head on. Maybe a bottle of wine would help first ?? Lol.

I think you maybe right, lay the cards on the table as it wereregarding the T.T. My partner is ok with tying me up, but as I said he isn't very experimental and when this has happend it's usually just for me to recieve oral - which is good . But how can I get him to take the more controlling role as you described? Would love to know.

Best wishes

Lkin Yummy x

Hiya Ilovemyman!

Thanks for the reply, and the suggestion. Im now thinking perhaps I could allow him to cum on my feet and maybe let him wash them after? ( I have a bit of a foot fetish too ) so perhaps knowing that he would be attending to them afterwards would steer me through it a bit easier?

I wish I had thought of these things myself, feel like a right wally lol.

Best wishes

Lking Yummy

xx

Heyo and welcome to the OA

In terms of your semen phobia I can think of a few things you could do but it really depends on where the phobia came from (no pun intended) and specifically what it is that bothers you.

You might find it helpful to learn about semen from a reliable text book or internet source. Sometimes phobias can be helped by getting a better understanding of the object of fear and I wonder if knowing the composition of semen would help you realise there's no nasties in there to worry about! Semen contains:

- sperm

- proteins and enzymes

- citric acid

- mucin

- sugars

- antibiotic

- vitamin C

Another idea that occurs to me is that if it's the texture that bothers you you could try desensitising yourself by putting you fingers in a substance with a similar texture (raw egg white comes to mind). Sounds a bit mad but I wonder if this might help you get used to the feeling of semen.

In the short term would having sex in a shower help at all? That way you'd know it was going to get washed off immediately.

That's all I can think of for now but well done for wanting to conquer your fear: if you can it's an amazing feeling to swallow or be filled with your OHs cum...I really hope you'll be able to love it too!

xxKPxx

i dont really know what to suggest other then if maybe its also the ick factor which the cleaning up start by letting him cum on you in the shower as then your be able to wash it off stright away!

sorry ive not been much help but im not to sure what to say, i can understand why you dont like the idea of it (im a bit OCD at times about things) but ive always been able to let my BF cum in/on me i just dont tend to think about it as im caught up in the moment and then just go clean up early.

maybe try giving him a hand job first and then letting him cum from that, so that way your end up with some of it on your hand and so could get used to the texture, feel and warmth? its also very easy to clean up, keep some tissues at the side of the bed then wash ur hands.

Dxx

Hi KP !

Thank you for such an informative reply ! And the positivity !

I know what bothers me ; it's the fact of knowing there's umpteen sperm swimmin in there. I know they won't hurt me though.

I see the logic behinde the shower idea, as I said in pervious post;I wish I had thought of these things.

At the risk of sounding a fool what does it feel like to swallow and how does it taste ?? That's pretty shamefull fora twenty something to ask, I know. But I would apprciate it if you could advise.

Best wishes

Lookin Yummy

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Hiya Yummy! 20's is not old girl, I am old! lol

No need to feel like a wally here, you are amongst like minded folks who will give as best advice as possible so don't be afraid to ask.

So in regards to flogging with a suede whip. Buy him a short easier to handle one like this from LH http://www.lovehoney.co.uk/product.cfm?p=15817 . Lay a pillow or two on your bed and get him to practice on these so he can get a feel for it and the weight and speed of movement and most of all accuracy. He can practise for as long as he likes (weeks, months. . . ) and also use it on himself just so he can judge how hard or light he needs to be and also to practice on your hand say so you can get a feel for it plus this also gets him more confident with experimenting. I would imagine he'll be raring to go after a week or two of this girl! But do speak to him about it first though.

SG69 x

Lookin - Yummy wrote:

Hi KP !

Thank you for such an informative reply ! And the positivity !

I know what bothers me ; it's the fact of knowing there's umpteen sperm swimmin in there. I know they won't hurt me though.

I see the logic behinde the shower idea, as I said in pervious post;I wish I had thought of these things.

At the risk of sounding a fool what does it feel like to swallow and how does it taste ?? That's pretty shamefull fora twenty something to ask, I know. But I would apprciate it if you could advise.

Best wishes

Lookin Yummy

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see the taste and texture can vary(sp) from man to man but there is things he can do to make it taste better.

such has cutting our beer and fatty fried foods and drinking pinapple juice is meant to sweeten it.

as i said texture can vary aswell, and not just from man to man but from how long its been since they last cum aswell.

the best thing to do is just swallow it as soon as its in your mouth that way its not hititting your taste buds that much and hanging around so to speak!

a good bit of advice would be though before letting him cum in/ on you would be to both know for 100% sure your STD clean so maybe take a trip to the local gum clinc togther for some swabs ect before playing unsafe

Dxx

Hi Diamonds!

Thanks for the reply. Any ideas / advice is greatly accepted so pls don't apologise for not helping much.

As I just said to KP I can see the logic in the shower idea and I think I may well try that tonight ! ;)

Best Wishes

Lookin Yummy

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Cheers SG69 !

I've had a look .

Thanks for sayin I aint old- I feel ancient sometimes lol ! I wouldn't say you were old, well you don'tlook it anyway!.

Best Wishes

Lookin Yummy

x

Lookin - Yummy wrote:

Hi KP !

Thank you for such an informative reply ! And the positivity !

I know what bothers me ; it's the fact of knowing there's umpteen sperm swimmin in there. I know they won't hurt me though.

I see the logic behinde the shower idea, as I said in pervious post;I wish I had thought of these things.

At the risk of sounding a fool what does it feel like to swallow and how does it taste ?? That's pretty shamefull fora twenty something to ask, I know. But I would apprciate it if you could advise.

Best wishes

Lookin Yummy

x

Ahhh shhhh we were all new to it once...the important thing is your keen to learn and improve your sex life...that's well over half the battle

I've only ever been with one man so I don't know if it's the same for all but I think his cum tastes a bit like the vanilla custard that you get in danish pastries. If you end up not liking the taste you can always take him far into your mouth so when he cums it goes down quickly (so to speak) and it's not a strong taste so you could have a drink on standby. Flavoured lubes...particularly mint ones (which I think tastes clean and fresh) might also help.

I think it feels wonderful to have my OH cum in my mouth and swallow...I think how it feels depends on the kind of oral session you're having:

I think oral gets horribly misrepresented in porn it's not all about a guy thrusting away with eye watering vigor into a girls mouth...I think some oral can be "porny" (quite hard and fast with lots of hand action) in which case swallowing feels naughty and dirty (in a good way!) My favourite kind of oral though is very controlled sucking and licking techniques and when I swallow in this situation it feels very intimate, like my way of saying "I accept you totally inside me."

In summary for me it's a treat to have my OH cum in my mouth, in any scenario it feels awesome but in different ways.

xxKPxx

Hey ,

I know exactly what you mean about the different types of oral - they are both good but in the right situations.

Your description of how it feels for you to swallow and " Accept " your OH is what I am wanting.

Fingers crossed I will get there soon ..... !

Lookin Yummy

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Hi Lookin-Yummy, sounds like the others have some good advise. Can I ask what it is that scares you about sperm in particular? As KP says, perhaps having a deeper understanding of the fear may help. Sperm are afterall just another cell in the body, just like your egg cells the only difference they have to a normal cell is the amount of DNA they carry.

As for your man perhaps not liking the idea of tickle torture - you won't know if you don't ask! Perhaps don't use the word "torture" when you speak to him as it may put him off a little, but if you let him stroke your body then tell him that you like that particular tickly sensation then perhaps he can gradually get into the idea. Start small and work up to it.

Don't know if any of that helps but hope you conquer your fears!

AX

Hey there !

Thank you for the reply. To be honest; it's just the thought of the moving about on / in me. I know it sounds daft and I am aware that I quite frankly wouldn't be here without one, lol. There is no reason as to why I feel this way, it's just me. But as you say , the ppl on here have given good advice, so I will be acting upon it .

I like your suggetsion for the T.T. Thanks.

Lookin Yummy

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I have just had a revelation....I use the word perhaps far too much! Sorry for the repetitiveness there!

I get what you mean about the movement but maybe if you try and think of it in terms of scale - sperm cells are so tiny that the movement in real terms is less than (for example) the movement of a blade of grass. It's a long process to get over any phobia but from experience, changing your outlook and the way you hold the phobia in your mind can be helpful!

Good luck

Ax

Lookin - Yummy wrote:

Hey there !

Thank you for the reply. To be honest; it's just the thought of the moving about on / in me. I know it sounds daft and I am aware that I quite frankly wouldn't be here without one, lol. There is no reason as to why I feel this way, it's just me. But as you say , the ppl on here have given good advice, so I will be acting upon it .

I like your suggetsion for the T.T. Thanks.

Lookin Yummy

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Ahh if this is the basis of your phobia then you have nothing to fear! Sperm are microscopically small, you can't feel them moving as they're far to tiny to stimulate your nerve endings

xxKPxx

I guess I just gotta stop thinking about it so much, lol x

can i ak if its also the risk of pregnancy that makes you fear sperm?

as the others have mentioned gentle and steady introductions to semen could help you and i think the shower idea is great, especially if its the cleanliness that is an issue.

above all relax, youre doing a brilliant thing in trying to overcome your fear!

as for tickle torture calling it something like "tickle play" might help your partner feel more willing to try, but open and honest descussion is the way forward with that one really