So as i've previously said me and the other half have one night a month in a hotel, last night was one of them and we finally managed to try out the strap on i bought for us :D
It's always been my biggest fantasy, and we've been building upto this point for a good few months now. We started small, with fingers and beginner butt plugs, moved onto anal beads, anal vibrators, and last night we tried with a strap on for the first time. It was amazing. But as it was our first time we were really really slow and gentle, and couldn't really enjoy it properly as we were so focused on making sure it didn't hurt. He managed to take it well after lots of play and lube. And we're hoping we can build from this and eventually i can let loose entierly on him :D
My question is, is there anything else we can do to make it easier on him? I've given him the butt plug to take home with him and he plans on using it while just wandering round the house, although the thought is rather comical, i've read it's a good way to "strech" out and make it easier for him to take it. And is there a real benefit to using anal specific lube? We've always used the flavoured durex brand as they have just been what we are used to, but would an anal lube make it more comfortable for him? And any other advice would be greatly appretiated.
Either a thick water based lubricant like sassy, if you are using silicone/jelly toys. If you are using fingers or non silicone toys, I would also recommend trying a silicone lubricant. Oil based lubes are also good for anal, just avoid getting those near your vagina.
Lube makes quite a big difference. The one you are using at the moment is not very good at all for anal. It is quite runny (No real cushion as Misschar says.) and that stuff dries sticky and thats gotta hurt trying to thrust past sticky! :D
good lube advice from all above :0). me and my wife peg... its coool, having her incontrole like that... think wev dun it 5-6 times, but not sure. silly Q but wat sort of strappon did u use AddToSex??
1st we used a black non realistic 1 (6"-7" inch), then i got a doc johnson (i think) realistic cock dildo thing (from anothers site as free gift for another toy :P ) that feels better. look at my reveiws for the strappon :).
let ur guy use the strappon or any toy that u both use ,,, let him use it on his own by himself so he can test and play and get to know wat he like with it... i did and still do and i can tell my wife wats good and wat angle dont do nothing and it make it better :) keep testing and have fun. and soon ul be pounding him like a pro male porn star. ... humm.. wounder if my wife is free tonight :P
The first times you try it, let him be in control. ideal positions are you laying down and letting him ride you, or doggy but you stay still and let him do the moving. This way he can get used to the sensation and depths at his own pace, learn what he likes (How deep, faster or slower, long thrusts or short shallow jiggles etc) and then when it is your turn to take over, follow his previous examples.
Don't expect to the thrusting away immediately, or even after many sessions. It really does take so much time to build up to pounding his ass. It doesn't mean your doing anything wrong, its just, one of these things that takes a time to master.
Communicate all the time during the first few encounters, to learn the do's and dont's for him.
Something else to bear in mind, this one is to make it easier n yourself rather than him: Be fit if you intend to pound away. Oh jesus I do not envy you guys. It is hard work! lol
When it comes to dildos for intial pegging, go for shorter, slimline dildos, like this:
Length is surprisingly important. My guy does not enjoy toys that go to deep (more than say, 4 or 5 inches) and I have heard the same from lots of people who are new to anal. Too much depth can hurt and if your dildo is 7 inches long, you may find that pounding is out of the equation. Of course this doesnt apply to all. Slimmer is easier for new experiences of course and having a smooth, texture free (No bumps ridges etc) dildo will make for a more gentle, less intense (In a not so good way) experience.
Those trips to the hotel are fun, me and the wife try to get them in every few months, we`ve been into pegging for about six years but its only the last year we`ve started doing it more often. The right dildo and harness has alot to do with it, comfort for her but she also needs to feel sexy wearing it. As for the dildo for me i figured something the size of my cock she seems to enjoy it and anything bigger i might get size envy lol. Its flexibe and made from a soft material, we use a realistic six dildo with suction cup which we put thru the o ring. Lube we use maximus anal lube, tried others but we find this one work best for us. I douche about an hour before hand and insert a butt plug in, tends to help but also gives me piece of mind that i`m clean down there when i take it out. Lots of foreplay and then take it slow till its comfortable then pound away.