I’m sorry to hear the conversation wasn’t more productive. Ultimately you have to respect her view, you can’t force someone to do something they don’t want to.
Maybe you could occasionally share a suitably tame post from this forum and in time she may be more accepting that what she feels is ‘weird’ at present, is actually rather commonplace.
I personally wouldn’t let her reluctance stop you exploring anal play on your own. You’ve mentioned you’d like to explore that solo, so while she may not like it, you have been honest about your intentions and she isn’t effected by your masturbation choices. x
One thing you could maybe try when using a vibrator with your wife is suggesting she rubs it on your cock, balls and rim, “just to see how it feels.” If she sees you enjoy the feeling further play may come over time.
I got H into bum play but putting my vibrator on him and asking how it felt.
I’ll be honest playing with his bum doesn’t turn me on per se but knowing he likes it does. So, I have bought him a couple of toys since.
Thank you everyone for the great advice so far, if anyone else has any other advice then please feel free to comment, i am willing to try anything just to break out of the “normal” routine and try exploring for myself or her side
Laughter……….. I know it’s a little off topic perhaps but as the saying goes laughter is your best medicine!
But start small…. Watch a film that has some sex scenes in it and make a little joke without being obvious. Watch a program like “Open house” and talk about it while it’s on like “jeeeez how does he think he’ll manage that many women” …… laugh at the misfortune of some of the characters etc, maybe have a look at the LH website for something for her and let her know that you’ve looked for something for her but then laugh at some of the extreme things on there like the tentacles or sex machines etc. make it fun it may help rather than serious convisations
