A couple of years ago my OH and I swung quite a bit. Over time we naturally progressed to going full swing, or at least attempting to.
On two separate occasions (the only two occasions actually) we've gone for the full swap. Everything was fine with me mechanically so to speak, until we put the condom on. Then... nothing. It just went
We tried to work it out at the time, but just couldn't. The woman I was about to be with was very attractive (a different couple each time), I didn't feel anxious or stressed/tired etc, my OH was enjoying herself with the man of the couple and I was enjoying that she was enjoying herself.
The first time it was a bit embarrassing and awkward, and we didn't really discuss it with the other couple (and I felt that she'd taken offence shortly after). The second couple were more experienced than us and understanding. They put it down to me concentrating on my OH, making sure she was happy - but to be honest I was completely in the moment at the time.
Since then life has got in the way, so we've not had time to meet more people. The thing is, now life is leaving us alone were thinking of getting back into it.
I'm a bit concerned we'll get all revved up and then I'll have another failure, for no apparent reason. My OH and I very, very use a condom between ourselves, and then it's only if it's anal and she's concerned she might not be 100% clean.
Does anybody have any advice on how to hopefully avoid another failure if we swing in the future?