Recently my hubby has been suggesting we try anal (him on me). I know he is very sensitive around his anal area, and I play with him during foreplay, which he loves, but when he touches me there, it doesn't really do anything for me. I've told him I'm not keen on the idea, although must admit to being a little curious, so haven't written it off completely. I have read various posts here about building up in size and learning to relax, so I thought I'd experiment myself a bit first. I have a slim smooth vibe, which I lubed up and tried, and although it went in OK and I just left it there for a few minutes, I didn't really get any feeling or stimulation from it. I used it swtiched off, so as not to overdo things, but even after my first attempt, I was sore all day!
At the moment, I am thinking what he has never had, he won't miss, so I;' reluctant to start giving him a taste for anal, incase I can't go through with it.
However, heres the rub (if you excuse the expression!). Since I was pregnant nearly 10 years ago, I've suffered from piles. Not on a regular basis, but they do flare up every so often and I get bleeding and pain, which I treat with suppositories. I guess my experience of putting anything in my bum has been marred by this, plus I am worried that if there is already damage inside, attempting anal is going to make things worse.
Any advice appreciated, thanks guys and gals!
Hi, Twinkle Toes, thank you for posting.
First of all, if you try out anal with your hubby and you decide that it's not for you, don't think he won't be able to go without it. Despite what some men say, anal is not oxygen.
Your piles sound like you need a chat with your GP to get them nipped in the bud. It may be worth pointing out to him your concerns over how this effects your sex life too. Your doctor will know what is and isn't safe for your particular case. A lot of sexual enjoyment is psychological and if you're worried about your health then it's going to be even more difficult to experiment .
Some women find anal toys are more pleasurable during intercourse. This is because they can tighten up the vaginal canal and apply pressure to that area, making it feel different for you and your partner.
It's great that you're starting slow and using a of of lube, but make sure you try anything new when you're aroused. Perhaps try getting yourself worked up your usual way then incorperate the vibe to your play. This way it might accentuate things and you'll feel less like you're just there with a toy hanging out your rear.
May I ask what vibe you are using? If it's slim it may not be suited to anal play, stimulation wise and safety wise. Anything without a flared base can be swallowed up by an involuntary spasm and then you're due an awkward chat in A&E.
It's always fun to have a browse of the anal toy section.
The vibrating butt plugs and beginners kits may suit you well. The Tracey Cox kit goes down well.
You may find, after time you only like toys, or your partner's penis, or perhaps both. But if you don't dig it, communicate this and your hubby will respect you for sticking to a boundary.