As some of you may know I’m a newbie to anal play, I included it in my masturbation sessions for a short period just using my index finger and plenty of lube, I was working up to using a buttplug that I stupidly got rid of and then hopefully a prostate massager and then the end goal being a fantasy dildo.
Then I got hit with some self esteem issues surrounding it and stopped for a while but as of a few days ago after a good 5 minute self fingering I have decided to get back into it but I have noticed that my ass hole is incredibly tight and can only take my index finger, I suppose I am somewhat nervous when fingering my ass but it’s mainly down to butterflies. I use a lot of lube and try to take my time but I’m lucky if I’ll be able to get one session a week in, at max 2.
I was wondering if anybody had any tips to help me get a bit looser with the goal of getting all the way up to a variety of different toys.
Thanks, I think both doggy and laying side on are the best bet at the minute as they give me the best feeling, in regards to getting anymore fingers in do you have any tips?
Yeah the only way you’ll get looser is by practice more often but also you can try things like having a nice warm bath to help relax before play and even there are some anal lubes what help but people tend to be 50/50 them.
Being calm is part of it, but the only way you train those muscles is by practicing. I’d say that I would still get in one good anal session every week, but if I don’t, it definitely takes a bit of warming up.
I think a bath would be a good idea, I personally like the lovehoney Water based lube. It’s thick and can be used on my dick as well if I fancy a special wank, only issue is sometimes it can dry out after a few minutes and when I’m in the zone so to speak the last thing I want to do is take my finger out of me and reapply then in doing so kill some of the excitement
Occasionally, I use a prostate massager, and I have varying sizes. I often find that the initial push can feel very uncomfortable, but once the muscle relaxes and the toy is taken in, it eases up, and all discomfort goes away.
Just be sensible with size, and don’t go for something too bold too quickly. Also, make sure you are using something with a flared base so it can’t be sucked up, and ofc use good lube.
Other than that, taking time for foreplay, even with yourself, is always a good thing!
Novices here too but I find lots of lube and positioning helps. I find if I lie of my side with my knees bent it helps. I also find standing and bending over really helps with a butt plug and going super slow
Not wanting to be too controversial but is there a case for using too much lube when the general advice is use plenty.
We’re both users of plugs and my wife takes my dick anally too but we find if you put too much lube on the plug/dick lots gets left behind as they enter.
For me up until recently anything beyond a finger or 2 had been uncomfortably near impossible. So my best results were while in shower, squatting then using a my finger. I enjoy anal play and teasing with OH. And it does take a lot of patience and teasing for me.
