Anal Tips (touchy subject or helpful hints?)

Me and my boyfriend have been together for 7 months and have been having sex for about 5 of those, we're quite adveturious and we want to try anal, but we have so many problems finding helpful information and actually some helpful health advice. We are aware that latex condoms can rot the rectum, that you have you douche and that you should relax the anus by slowly and gently easing the anus to be able take the width of the cock. Yet there are certain things we aren't sure about, and my boyfriend wants to make sure my health is top with the fact I suffer from IBS. So..

  1. When 'cleaning out your bowls' does that mean your whole system, or just your rectum? And is there any gentle and comfortable way to clear your whole bowl without using destressing measures, such as laxitives?
  2. When douching, do you use any certain water... cold, warm, boiled and left to cool or soapy water (made up of a pH natural soap)?
  3. Does using vinyl gloves to ease the anus cause any health risks?
  4. Even if you clean yourself out, rectum or full bowl, can you still shit yourself?
  5. Are non-latex condoms and anal lube A LOT LOT BETTER to use than latex condoms and normal lubes or is there not much difference?

Erm, can't remember if there's anything else, so ye, any body who's tried it or experianced, will you help some newbies out? Also, anything else that you think would be helpful to know, we'd be glad for the advice, as well as any anal toys or relaxences etc that you think would help or make it even more pleasureable.

Thank you :) x

you cant ever be 100% sure of no poop in my experience. Its best to expect the worst and be pleased when nothing much happens. I always duche before anal with warmed soapy water, shit can still happen but hey its anal. relax and enjoy!

violeteyes wrote:

if im honest, whenever i have had anal i make sure i go to the toilet before hand and if during the act he gets shit on his nob then thats his fault for sticking it in there

but i would say use thicker anal lube, lots of it. im not sure about condoms though, perhaps a google search might cough up some info

I love the honesty violeteyes. Gave me a good chuckle

violeteyes wrote:

if im honest, whenever i have had anal i make sure i go to the toilet before hand and if during the act he gets shit on his nob then thats his fault for sticking it in there

but i would say use thicker anal lube, lots of it. im not sure about condoms though, perhaps a google search might cough up some info

Er, I totally agree with violet. You kinda know yourself if there's anything major up there, but little bit's happen sometimes regardless and you've just gotta be prepared or it's maybe just not for you. Me and Boobaloo don't use gloves or johnies ( they tear very easily ), we just wash well before and after. My advice other than washing and lots of lube as violet says, is taking it slowly ( just read again and realised you know already! ). If you're not used to it ( and even if you are! ) the muscles can clench uncontrolably and quite literally be a pain in the arse.

allways douche and douche again and you know if anything is still there wash again, the same as lubing up lube and lube again,allways be ready for a hidden suprise guys as the lady said it's anal fun

violeteyes wrote:

but i would say use thicker anal lube, lots of it. im not sure about condoms though, perhaps a google search might cough up some info

I don't know if I'm alone on this one, but when using a thicker lube (Maximus) there tends to be more mess than a thinner one (Durex Play) ? But then again I'm pretty sure this will be just be me, always worth noting though >.<

I definitely agree with taking it slowly at first, let the recipient control the pace until they are happy.

Durex Play is water based, so can and will dry out. I'd recommend a silicone lube for anal since it won't dry out.

I know and I will always advise others to use lube that wont dry out just for me personally the bog standard durex play is my lube of choice for anal

I also find that the more lube the bigger the mess.. I'm sure its just the lube being tainted by any bits it comes in contact with but it still happens.. we just get on with it!

I agree with the post above. I have usually found there is no problem as long as I avoid trying anything a few hours before AND after a bowel movement. The rectum will be full before a movement, then on a good day, the mucus membranes tidy themselves up afterwards, leaving the rectum pretty much empty after a few hours. If your movements are regular and well formed you should be fine, especially if you are not penetrating much deeper than 6 inches or so.

If you want to be really sure, a few quick douches usually do the trick, nothing excessive, just a cup full of water each time till it runs clear. I also find it helpful to avoid eating excessively spicy food beforehand, so any surprise aromas or odd solids are less offensive. Obviously, you should take a rain check if you have any irritation in the anus or if you have the runs.

Take it very slowly, you can enjoy working up to this over the course of several weeks. If you experience any pain, this is a sign to stop and go back a few stages, your exploits should always be completely comfortable and pleasurable.

There's also a good blog on this subject by Hela Rouge earlier this month. Good luck!

Postillionager wrote:

I agree with the post above. I have usually found there is no problem as long as I avoid trying anything a few hours before AND after a bowel movement. The rectum will be full before a movement, then on a good day, the mucus membranes tidy themselves up afterwards, leaving the rectum pretty much empty after a few hours. If your movements are regular and well formed you should be fine, especially if you are not penetrating much deeper than 6 inches or so.

If you want to be really sure, a few quick douches usually do the trick, nothing excessive, just a cup full of water each time till it runs clear. I also find it helpful to avoid eating excessively spicy food beforehand, so any surprise aromas or odd solids are less offensive. Obviously, you should take a rain check if you have any irritation in the anus or if you have the runs.

Take it very slowly, you can enjoy working up to this over the course of several weeks. If you experience any pain, this is a sign to stop and go back a few stages, your exploits should always be completely comfortable and pleasurable.

There's also a good blog on this subject by Hela Rouge earlier this month. Good luck!

Haha yes! Reminds me of a story about a guy I worked with, some anal beads, a one night stand and a lot of cleaning up!!! Avoid it totally if you're feeling unwell or sore lols, and even if you're just not feeling it at the time.

if you feel uncomfortable then dont do it.

you'll know when you feel ok to do it.

douche helps.

and as for any mishaps - well its part and parcel of the game. you wanna play with shit - be prepared for a little mess - it happens to the the best of people

YoungRose wrote:

Me and my boyfriend have been together for 7 months and have been having sex for about 5 of those, we're quite adveturious and we want to try anal, but we have so many problems finding helpful information and actually some helpful health advice. We are aware that latex condoms can rot the rectum, that you have you douche and that you should relax the anus by slowly and gently easing the anus to be able take the width of the cock. Yet there are certain things we aren't sure about, and my boyfriend wants to make sure my health is top with the fact I suffer from IBS. So..

  1. When 'cleaning out your bowls' does that mean your whole system, or just your rectum? And is there any gentle and comfortable way to clear your whole bowl without using destressing measures, such as laxitives?
  2. When douching, do you use any certain water... cold, warm, boiled and left to cool or soapy water (made up of a pH natural soap)?
  3. Does using vinyl gloves to ease the anus cause any health risks?
  4. Even if you clean yourself out, rectum or full bowl, can you still shit yourself?
  5. Are non-latex condoms and anal lube A LOT LOT BETTER to use than latex condoms and normal lubes or is there not much difference?

Erm, can't remember if there's anything else, so ye, any body who's tried it or experianced, will you help some newbies out? Also, anything else that you think would be helpful to know, we'd be glad for the advice, as well as any anal toys or relaxences etc that you think would help or make it even more pleasureable.

Thank you :) x

Hi YR

Reading your post just re-affirms there is so much uneccessary mystery and misunderstanding written about A. Your post, if you don't mind me saying, reads like a medical opperation and not the fantastic sexual experience it can be. So rather than answering your questions directly, let me respond with a few observations you are free to take or leave and I will take no offence either way:

1. It is perfectly ok for women to enjoy A. My observation is more women shy away from it becuse they are ashamed they will enjoy it rather than it will be painful or messy which become irrelevant if approached correctly

2. Preparation is every thing. Your A is basically a muscle, a muscle you are going to stretch. In that sense it is no different to any other. You wouldn't expect to be able to do the splits straight off (well maybe you could but that would be unusual). So why expect to be any different with A? So I suggest you and your partner invest in the following:

  • A specialist anal desentivser (this is not a magic wand but it helps)
  • Specialist Anal Lube (we use Tracey Cox)
  • Butt Plugs or a specialist A Dildo (not romantic I know, but you'll thank me for it)

3. Great A is a long game. Working yourself up to the first time and then every individual time thereafter. There are no short cuts to pleasure on this one, but the investment is worth it! So I suggest you and your partner start slowly. Guys aren't naturally good at this, especially when turned on...but make him wait until you are ready. Apply the sedative cream and then just work at strecthing your A with fingers, then a small Butt Plug and always plenty of lube - you can never have too much although keep a roll of Kitchen towel handy just to keep it all under control.

4. So eventually you'll come to your first true time. Before you do it make sure you are really well lubed and stretched, but the real thing is different. Again the typical guy thinks it is just the same as vaginal and he can pump away for whatever. No, no and thrice no. You need to inset slowly and then find the right pace for you. If your partner fancies themselves as a Sex God, and let's face it most men do, they will be smart enough (even men are capable of it) to go with you on this one. If they don't it is a big fat Gypsy no

5. Ok so 4 has all sorts or permatations and so forth. Once you have got so far then you can really learn to enjoy it. Treats are ahead of you like working a V or D while you take A. We are all unique so I can't tell you what will work for you other than back to the basic that prep and time will yield long term results

6. Finally on health and douching. I've never found any need other than to shower and wash carefully in certain parts. However, I can also understand the attraction of douching, especially if rimming is involved. So again, you will know yourself. I would also strongly suggest you and your partner use condoms and strict A and V speeration before you contemplate bare back.

Best of fun babe

MrsCx

Cool4Cats wrote:

  • A specialist anal desentivser (this is not a magic wand but it helps)
  • Specialist Anal Lube (we use Tracey Cox)
  • Butt Plugs or a specialist A Dildo (not romantic I know, but you'll thank me for it)

This isnt always he best way to go. desensitizing it is a)going to reduce the pleasure for her, and b)make her less likely to notice any pain which IS a bad thin because pain happens for a reason and is our bodies way of telling us not to do something.

Inara14 wrote:

Cool4Cats wrote:

  • A specialist anal desentivser (this is not a magic wand but it helps)
  • Specialist Anal Lube (we use Tracey Cox)
  • Butt Plugs or a specialist A Dildo (not romantic I know, but you'll thank me for it)

This isnt always he best way to go. desensitizing it is a)going to reduce the pleasure for her, and b)make her less likely to notice any pain which IS a bad thin because pain happens for a reason and is our bodies way of telling us not to do something.

ditto my thoughts entirely

I agree with Inara and Lickmadick, all the official material I have come across advises against using desensitizing products. I really cannot see the point in them; in my experience, the physical sensations are central to the whole experience, and you also need to have your pain responses working so that nothing gets harmed.

Inara14 wrote:

Cool4Cats wrote:

  • A specialist anal desentivser (this is not a magic wand but it helps)
  • Specialist Anal Lube (we use Tracey Cox)
  • Butt Plugs or a specialist A Dildo (not romantic I know, but you'll thank me for it)

Inara14 wrote:

Cool4Cats wrote:

  • A specialist anal desentivser (this is not a magic wand but it helps)
  • Specialist Anal Lube (we use Tracey Cox)
  • Butt Plugs or a specialist A Dildo (not romantic I know, but you'll thank me for it)

This isnt always he best way to go. desensitizing it is a)going to reduce the pleasure for her, and b)make her less likely to notice any pain which IS a bad thin because pain happens for a reason and is our bodies way of telling us not to do something.

Which desensitizers have you actually used? We've tried four different types which I'm happy to list for you.I should have said their principal benefit is as an aid to relaxation, which I hope you would agree is essential in this type of activity. What they are not is an anesthetic, which is what you and the other posters have quite rightly pointed out would be a mistake for the reasons you have listed. So I hope that clears up that slight misconception. They are one useful tool of many in this particular experience, and as I said they are no magic wand.

Best

Mrs Cx

I highly highly recommend the book Anal Pleasure and Health by Jack Moris and Jack Morin Ph. D. It's such a classic that I'm surprised Lovehoney doesn't stock it.

Also, try to get rid of the idea that penis in bottom is the 'real thing' and everything else is a consolation prize. Anal play is fun, even if it's just placing a vibe against the anus without insertion, or massaging it with a finger. Anal beads, fingering, toys, vibes, humping the ass cheeks without insertion - all these things are really great and add a lot of fun and variety.

Good luck and have fun!