Hiya I'm new to this & just thought I would ask for some advice. I don't have much confidence when it comes to giving a bj unless I'm drunk but can't really be drunk all the time lol. Wot technique is the best & more pleasurable for the man & how can I make it more enjoyable for me? Would be greatful of Any tips or advice thanks x
I love giving my OH a bj. I start off licking him, as we don't tend to use lube when playing together. When he's nice and slick and begging for more, I tease the top with my tongue, sucking a little. When it gets to the actual shaft+bj, I find my hand on the bottom, touching my lips, so he gets all the pleasure without the need for deep throat. As I pull up I suck hard, then down, up and suck, down....mix it up with a bit of licking and stroking to really tease...
Sorry if a bit TMI but hope it's helpful!
Also, even if you don't feel confident, the more you do, and the more confident you appear, the better you'll get and you'll find you can enjoy it as well :)
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What miss k said. Men tend to enjoy it if your enthusiastic. So just go for it! If your mouth is dry bite down the back sides of your tongue and should fix it, my man likes bJ really wet! If you use flavoured lube too it might make it easier, the taste will be nice and you will probably go deeper, and have more fun doing it! I think that's the main part - enthusiasm! Also use your hand on the shaft too so his whole dick gets a working (depending on how big it is or how deep you can go!) Xx
Tickling/fondling the balls does it for me.
Don't forget to use your tongue whilst he's in your mouth. My OH likes that!
Yep use your tongue and most guys like it when you stroke there balls. X
http://www.lovehoney.co.uk/product.cfm?p=27472 - This is amazing for a wet blow job but ice and bubbles (sparkling water ect) are always good fun as well.
I tend to start with a firm grip around the shaft and slowly slide my tongue up and then back down whilst looking into the eyes, eye contact is a must. If your not opposed licking and gently sucking the testicles is an amazing way to drive him wild too, just dont go too hard or use teeth.
My hubby loves my lips too so i use them to my advantage lol, lots of kissing and sucking. I ralso read in a Tracey Cox book once about swirling your tongue around his head, it drives my hubby wild.
Just remember no teeth (unless he likes it) and eye contact and you'll be fine :).
Ice cream is great fun to get you into it =) just drizzle it around and enjoy your banana split ;)
Everything everyone else said. And use your top lip to cover your teeth. You don't want to be a cheese grater.
Also remove rings if your gonna use your hand. They can dig in when applying a firm grip
And lots of eye contact.... It looks really horny to a guy from my experience.
Use your hand for any sort of thrusting motion, and your tongue / lips on the tip.
Deep throating is just showey nonesense
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Eye contact is always good
Swirling is a must in my opinion. I swirl my tongue around his head when it's deep and shallow and it makes him go wild, everytime!
KebertXela wrote:
Deep throating is just showey nonesense
It all depends on if you can pull if off i think, im no expert but my husband always enjoys it when i do try. x
Blackcherry wrote:
KebertXela wrote:
Deep throating is just showey nonesense
It all depends on if you can pull if off i think, im no expert but my husband always enjoys it when i do try. x
I have to agree with black cherry! My boyfriends have always only really liked deepthroating! Well my first boyfriend only wanted it anyway!
MissChar wrote:
Blackcherry wrote:
KebertXela wrote:
Deep throating is just showey nonesense
It all depends on if you can pull if off i think, im no expert but my husband always enjoys it when i do try. x
I have to agree with black cherry! My boyfriends have always only really liked deepthroating! Well my first boyfriend only wanted it anyway!
Lol it is some male obsession (no offense guys ;p), in the swinging world where i have met a few men they have all pretty much loved the whole deep throating idea and the thought of it.
I'm not saying its not popular, merely that its showey nonesense.
Its a visual power thing, rather than that its enoyable in its own right
Well then it's enjoyable :) visual stimulation works a treat so I wouldn't discount it! Like eye contact with blowjob. This might be too personal but how is it not enjoyable? I'm curious
KebertXela wrote:
I'm not saying its not popular, merely that its showey nonesense.
Its a visual power thing, rather than that its enoyable in its own right
Im assuming your a guy as your profile says your male (sorry if im wrong) but do you not enjoy it? I have always assumed it felt good thats why men ask for it, just asking my other half and he says he enjoys the feeling and being able to "fuck" my throat (excuse my crudeness :p).
Think well have to agree to disagree xx
I'm struggling to phrase this delicatly.
I dont get off on control or dominance.
The most sensitive part of little kebert it the tip, and the best way to stimulate that, it as I suggested.
If your boyfriend does enjoy seeing you struggling to breathe and such, then by all means, deepthroat, add none waterproof mascara for an extra porny look.
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Not judging or anything
Listen to him moaning thats always a good sign and pratice makes perfect.
Some men like teeth some dont some like their balls playing with some dont some like a finger in the bum some dont .You will find out what he likes by listening to him the little shallow breaths as you take him by surprise the fact his hand may go in your hair to guide you . Have fun and relax x
Ice cubes are good to use , also if you gag when it goes to deep push your younger forward so he thinks its hitting the back of your mouth and if your jaw starts to ache use bothe hands (on top of each other not in a clasped position) but only do this with wet hands