I have been with my partner nearly 4 years. We have always enjoyed a great sex life, we never used toys/dress up/bondage etc. but we never needed to, we were both very satisfied with our sex lives. Unfortunately, we have had an extremely stressful year so far, not with each other but personally, on both sides (I would prefer not to go into details), and it has had a huge effect on our whole relationship.
The cause of the stress on my partner's side has made him extremely angry and depressed. The cause of the stress on my side has made me also very angry and sad too. We are fortunate enough that we have been a great support to each other during such a difficult time when we have found that unfortunately our family and friends have been the cause of some of our stresses. Our relationship hasn't suffered per se and our dynamic certainly hasn't changed but it has had a significant effect on our sex life.
Our sex life has become routine, we are still having sex as often as before (minimum 4-5 times per week) but because we have so much going on in our lives, it has become quite plain and routine. I think it would be nice also, as the things in our lives that are causing us stress have almost been resolved, to try something different and new, as a sort of celebration of the end of the terrible time we had.
I am looking for advice on how to spice things up. We have never used anything in our sex life. Neither of us would be prudish about it but we've just never felt the need, we have always been satisfied by just being naked and trying out whatever we wanted unaided. Obviously I know we could introduce sex toys, different positions etc. but how? We have both tried various things with other sexual partners but never with each other and I just don't know how to broach the subject with my partner.
What is the best setting to talk about it? What is the best way to ensure that it isn't just talk and actually does happen? I have been browsing the LH website and have seen a few couples packs that I would be interested in, would it be a bad idea to just buy something like that and produce it in the bedroom, would that be too full on?