I've just posted on the "When did you have last have sex" thread and it got me thinking. I had a search for a thread on this topic, but couldn't find anything.
My Wife and I have been struggling to have an active and interesting sex life for some years, primarily due to having a family (2 children aged 16 and 18 now), work stress etc... We have been trying to improve this since around March last year with varying success, it's getting better and we are talking more, however, we still have the odd problem.
I love my Wife with all my heart always have done and always will. I can still remember the day I saw her 37 years ago and the attraction I felt towards her; I still feel that attraction today. I think we are very lucky as we have friends and family who have separated and divorced, some of them with significant pain.
So in thinking through last night I may have initially been "too respectful" towards my Wife (see the other thread) and should have also thought about my own needs. When I think back over the years I've always put my Wife's needs first beacuse I love her, but it ignores my needs and I'd be lying if it didn't on occasions cause resentment and frustration for me. Something further for us to discuss about our relationship.
So I'd be interested in peoples, experiences, views, opinions on the following question, hopefully it may start a debate.
Can you be too respectful to have a great sex life ?