I’ve been told guys don’t know that I’ve orgasmed until I tell them or they ask me. Mine are so discreet and I feel like men/women I’ve been with think that I’m faking them or just telling them I did when I didn’t. I’d never fake one and I feel like I’d look stupid if I did. I only moan a little bit, close my eyes sometimes and grip the pillows, bed etc. I find it hard to be ‘loud’ like in the movies because of how intense they usually are (I know that sounds weird). I know movies don’t capture the real thing but it’s so ingrained into people my age’s minds.
Is anyone else the same? For men, do you know when a woman your with orgasms or not?
Not everyone is loud or moves a lot during orgasm. Some people have subtle clues, some very obvious ones. Personally, I find my body reacts however it wants and there is no rhyme or reason to it (sometimes I moan a lot, sometimes im silent, sometimes I go still and rigid other times I squirm and it isn’t connected to intensity or how good the orgasm is or anything).
You can feel someone’s muscles contractions if you have a finger/penis inside them but that doesn’t guarantee they orgasmed, just that they got close.
Regular partners can learn to recognise your tells if you are to obvious but really, I wouldn’t worry about it. It isn’t something you should be trying to change
From my perspective I can tell when my OH orgasms. She is the same as you in how quiet she is vocally (thin walls and sleeping children). It’s more a physical reaction, body tensing, change in breathing pattern. Also if there is penetration then her internal muscles clench enough to push me out
You sound like my missus, keeps everything to herself. Use to ask her at the start when first started having fun, many years ago. But since then I’ve spotted her telltales.
She’s had 4 C-sections, but always did her kegal weight workouts. Now when she orgasms, her inner muscles act like a vice around my dick and near break it. She has caused bruises in the past, unwillingly.
Another sign I’d when she starts to grind harder, that happens after the first orgasm, then my greedy little woman wants more of them.
Hope this helps your curiosity, your not alone
Every male and female orgasms differently, muscle movement, loudness varies from person to person as does the type of Orgasm.
I have had encounters where by I was not sure if the person I was with had an Orgasm and vice versa I have had partners ask me if I had an Orgasm.
Only by being with someone for a period of time and observing them, will you be able to spot small clues that indicate Orgasm in someone who is normally very quiet @Diggerman_Baz mentioned.
Hubby can tell when I do, my moans get louder and more intense, my breathing gets faster, depending on the position we’re in I grip hold of him with my hands, and say keep doing that, and he says he can feel my muscles contracting as well
I can tell for sure. Mrs Chimp always says, ‘Good job. Well done’, and lets me pick a prize from the prize cupboard. Last time I got an Iron Man Lego set.
My OH doesn’t squirt or anything externally but her muscle contractions are fantastic. If I am inside her, she can milk me dry with her pulses. If I am fingering or giving her oral, it is actually incredible to watch the muscles move in and out to the point where she can pull me in deeper.
I know when/if she is faking but usually she changes up the sex and focuses on me if she isn’t getting where she needs to be… I often wondered the same thing but I am pretty convinced that they are real - otherwise she has one hell of alot of control down there!
I’ve never been in a relationship but do visit swingers clubs and during the last few years have had sex with quite a few women.
A few of the women I’ve been with have squirted, but the ones that don’t I can usually tell if they orgasm, but especially when I’m fingering them, because of the contractions and how they grip and release my finger
Mrs Sen arches her back and usually holds her breath just before, then releases sometimes silently, othertimes with a groan/moan. She will also push out whatever is in her (either my penis or a dildo). I can tell when she is building towards one and will ramp up whatever activity to match her increase in movement/breathing etc.
According to my other half yes very much so. He can feel contractions and he knows when my breathing changes. I think the give away is the fact I usually tell him also…
@sharbur it’s pretty variable here.
She is usually on the quiet side of things, and whilst the near signs are easily spotted (breathing, vagina contractions, body tensing, grinding) the accomplished orgasms doesn’t always stand out.
It’s OK. It don’t need her to scream, she never fakes it, and I appreciate that. It’s sometimes very obvious, yet sometimes I thought she did yet didn’t, or like last night, assumed she hadn’t yet she did.
It’s all OK.
Thinking of it, I had a girlfriend some 20+ years ago, who preferred some things that wouldn’t make her come. She loved to be cowgirl and take me in as much as she could. She was in heaven there, and didn’t want anymore than that.
My husband won’t tell me how he knows, but he does. Mine are varied, so it can’t just be one cue he uses. Now we’ve been together for 9 years, he knows every time.
If I’m inside my wife I can feel the orgasmic contractions. If I’m stroking her or watching her masturbate I can see her outer labia contracting and If I put my hand on her lower abdomen I can feel the contractions when she comes.
