His lordship has expressed an interest in this.
It is basically a spunky snog after a BJ, which he usually gets, but someone else’s spunk. Essentially he wants to watch me suck someone else off and then kiss him. On the one hand I think, whatever, if it makes him happy, but on the other hand there seems literally nothing in it for me.
Any of you had this request and, if so, what have you done?
Thanks
Anna xxx
Well too far for me - and as you say what do you get
If it doesn’t get you excited then I’d say no. Its no small thing to give someone a bj and have them cum in your mouth, so you should at the very least be into it.
This is a fantasy for more men than I think would care to admit.
Ofc it has to be something you’re into.
What do you get from this?
Well maybe he would be happy with you fucking the other guy too if that’s something you’re into? If he’s into this he might be into watching you with a HUNG guy?
Do you enjoy sucking dick?
Do you enjoy being watched?
If you said yes to either of these then it’s a no brainier!!
Personally I don’t think that both partners need to necessarily get something from every act / fantasy etc but you just need to decide if this is a bridge too far!
Otherwise tease him when you snowball his own load. Tell him to imagine it’s Dave from your. Office etc and see how you both react 
Thank you.
As regular listeners will know, we have dabbled on and off with ENM (as I now know its called) but never with the cuck thing properly although, like all men, he does have that kink buried somewhere. I am having an (open) extra marital relationship and sometimes tease him about that and call him ‘Cucky’ which he likes but I have never done anything in front of him.
I sort of feel I a bit old for this and can’t really imagine how it would happen. It was fine in my 20s where I could easily ‘accidentally’ let my pyjamas fall open and his friend would see everything and it go from there. But it is not like that now, we have kids and our life is just different now and I can’t work out how I would do it, even if I liked the idea.
Generally, I say yes to everything because he is very good at indulging me but I just don’t know what to do about this. I don’t mind giving BJs but happy to do it as a treat, but I do love spunk, and could see how I could make it sexy for him.
I just can’t imagine the practicalities, what do I say to start it off, do I need to have my boobs out (its winter), and I don’t know what we would do straight after, would I make them both a cup of tea?
And why now, after all this time has it come up?
Anna xxx
Maybe it’s something that’s been brought on by the (open) affair that you’re having?
Oh that’s a thought.
We never talk about it really.
Could it be a pre-curser for a night of fun mmf ?
Certainly too old for that and it gets far too smelly.
Never too old !
Maybe be wants to watch the two of you together and have that smidgen of involvement. Just a bit more than putting on the heat for you 
He’s really laid on the charm this evening and even employed the old “do you need any money for Christmas trick”. So it’s obviously a real thing for him at the moment.
I would say ‘yes, thank you’ to the money and then just carry on as normal 
I just can’t see how we’d do it in a practical sense.
Oh @anna.michelsburg, I really think you are overthinking this. It doesn’t sound that hard to sort out.
How about: it’s a sexy situation, you get to put on a big show with a fabulous teasing blow job and you get to make your husband happy with his cummy kiss with someone else’s cum. Would be enough for me.
You sort it in advance. Tell your lover what your husband wants, and if he is up for it, tell your husband.
Of course. Put on a show. Get those fabulous boobs out there, flaunt them. Channel the Anna of old - she’s still in there. My husband says it isn’t a blow job unless there are boobs out and in line of view.
Well, if you’ve done that, they can make their own bloody tea. But whatever. Don’t overthink it. It’ll sort itself out. Because you’re talking to both sides beforehand, you can find out what they want. Your lover might want to just leave, your husband might want to shag you. Just have the discussions so everyone knows how this is going down (so to speak).
Who knows? Why is it only now that I really want to be the focus of a proper gang bang? No bloody idea. I just do. It might be like that.
Or it might be an opportunity thing. He might always have wanted it, and you having a lover has given him a realistic opportunity of getting it.
And finally, does it matter why?
You’re bloody not too old, girl!
Plenty of ways it could work. The three of you in the pub beforehand, then back to yours and get on with it. Or lover comes round and you get on with it with your husband watching, or lover comes round and starts with you on your own and once you are warmed up, husband comes in.
Remember even though this one act is the main event, you can do other things to warm up. Maybe get your lover to work you into a frenzy with his fingers (without making you cum), and then after you’ve done it, he can finish you off too.
Get your imagination going. Put it like this, if I was in your position, I’d want to do it to make him happy and I’d find a way to make me happy too.
And finally, if you really don’t want to do it, don’t do it. But practicalities aren’t a reason to not do it. They’re nearly always solvable.
Yes! What @KinkyMira said!
If the barriers you’re putting up is bc you don’t want to do it then don’t and tell him that. Otherwise go for it!
@anna.michelsburg … I take it you would get to choose the other person?
It does seem a big ask…if you are not entirely in to it, its a firm NO THANKS.
Really helpful comments, thanks all.
Yes, would get to chose but it can’t be the guy I am having an affair with, I don’t want him and Mark knowing each other.
I think I probably do have to do it for him, we have previously always been accommodating to each other’s quirky ideas and interests, and this should be no different.
Just don’t understand why it cropped up now rather than when we were dating when it would have been a lot easier.
Thank you especially @KinkyMira who has made me realise the practicalities are easy if I just put my mind to it.
All done, on Saturday, after the rugby and me betting on the losing side. Very easy and quite good fun actually. His lordship loved it.