Determined not to have my fantasy thwarted

I am latex sensitive.

I have a fantasy; I would like a ‘working girl’ to indulge my partner and I. I have found latex free dams so I feel confident that she and I could give each other head.

We have tried various latex free condoms including; Durex Avanti, Pasanté Unique and Mates Crystal (not latex free but hypoallergenic) but they are too small. He needs the larger sized condoms but they are not available in latex free.

Part of my fantasy is that I would like for the two of us to enclose him in our mouths simultaneously, to kiss around his penis. As most ‘working girls’ are reluctant to involve kissing any complication involving lack of a suitable condom would probably prevent me living out that aspect of my fantasy.

Can anyone recommend large or extra large latex free condoms?

Now *that* is a brilliant fantasy! Your partner is a lucky guy...

Trojan Supra http://www.orgasmarmy.com/product.aspx/Condoms/Group/Condoms/?productid=195

The Supra is quite a bit larger in length - 200mm (7.88 inches)- and width - 57mm (2.25 inches) - than average condoms.

Good luck!

Thanks!

I have ordered some to try and will write a review to let you know how we get on.

With the condoms I mean The fantasy with the 'working girl' will have to wait until we next go to Amsterdam.

Unless anyone has any closer to home and/or cheaper suggestions (The trip away, not the 'working girl' I think they charge a fair price.)

These are more transparent than normal condoms and consequently made his penis look even more attractive, tanned and glistening. His cock was squeezed in so tight it looked about to burst which was also visually stimulating (especially as, reassuringly, it does not feel at risk of bursting). They feel different to latex not rubbery or powdery but warm and pleasant.

These condoms do not smell or taste unpleasant and because they are latex free you can coat them in anything. I tried hazelnut oil which worked well and tastes more pleasant than KY. On another occasion I used Baileys as flavouring, delicious. Neither tasted unpleasant used with the condom or the spermicidal lubricant nor did they make these condoms less effective.

The packaging warns the risks of pregnancy and STDs are unknown for this condom. A study is being done. However the packaging also explains organisms as small as sperm and viruses cannot pass through Microsheer® polyurethane. However I would wonder if any working girls in Amsterdam would be prepared to accept them as an adequate alternative to latex. My husband is also extremely reluctant to risk using these until the results of the study have been published.

These condoms were difficult to unroll because like other latex free condoms they are not terribly stretchy widthways. Once he had somewhat lost his erection he managed to squeeze into it, although he was uncomfortable. Which is yet another reason for him to refuse to use them.

I was also concerned about a warning on the side of the pack; CAUTION: Spermicidal Lubricants Are Not For Rectal Use Or More-Than-Once-A-Day Vaginal Use. I am unsure whether this warning occurs on all condoms and if it does it makes me particularly worried as to why the warning is there.

What are the implications of using condoms with spermicidal lubricants rectally?

What are the implications of using condoms with spermicidal lubricants vaginally more than once a day?

Obviously the consequences cannot be as serious as the results of catching an STD or becoming pregnant however I would have liked more information, perhaps a leaflet enclosed in the pack would be a good idea. The only further information available on the website is that the spermicidal lubricant has been used for over 50 years.

Durex Avanti non-latex condoms have non-spermicidal lubricant on them.

However the Trojan Supra was a success of sorts; it is the first non-latex condom large enough for us to use. (At a stretch.)

Although it is not mentioned at all on their website Trojan also do a ‘lambskin’ latex free alternative whose dimensions are bigger still, but these condoms warn that they are not intended as protection against STDs. We’ll probably try out them next and hope one or other kind is studied and found to be suitable protection against STDs soon.

a lot of spermicides contain chemicals that can irritate, that's possibly why that warning is there

Cheers
Debs

"I was also concerned about a warning on the side of the pack; CAUTION: Spermicidal Lubricants Are Not For Rectal Use Or More-Than-Once-A-Day Vaginal Use. I am unsure whether this warning occurs on all condoms and if it does it makes me particularly worried as to why the warning is there.

What are the implications of using condoms with spermicidal lubricants rectally?

What are the implications of using condoms with spermicidal lubricants vaginally more than once a day?"

Nonoxyl-9 is probably the spermicide in question, and there have recently been concerns raised as to its propensity to cause irritation. Many people buy "extra safe" condoms assuming they're for anal sex, but in fact they usually contain spermicide. As it can cause irritation in some individuals it can actually assist the possible transfer of HIV or other STDs.

Basically, you should use condoms which you know will work for you, plus a non-spermicidal lube to minimise any risks.

You know, if you have any questions about this, or want to get the right products, you can visit your local family planning clinic. If you find a good nurse there, they will advise you (believe me, they have heard it ALL before!)

Oh, and the FPC will supply you with free condoms too. Handy if you need specialised ones such as extra large, non-latex.

I'm a working girl (no scare quotes, it is work!), and I wouldn't be comfortable using condoms that haven't been proved to be effective. As someone who's concerned about my sexual health, I also don't go anywhere near nonoxynol-9. It's horrible stuff, please read up on it before using it with anyone who you're not sure is in good sexual health.
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Nonoxynol-9

There's a thriving sex industry in the UK, and contrary to popular misconception, it's legal. (It's not legal to run a brothel or agency, but working for them and using their services is fine, so it doesn't really affect you.) http://punterlink.co.uk is a good place to start finding out about the industry.

A lot of sex workers in this country don't know what dental dams are, they're not commonly used, though if you want to use one it shouldn't be a problem. It's not hard at all to find someone who's willing to kiss and/or perform fellatio without a condom, both are becoming the norm over here. In brothels, some girls offer them for an extra fee whereas independent escorts include them in their price if they're comfortable performing them. Agency policy varies.

If you want to use condoms of your own you should definately discuss it with your chosen worker before meeting, even aside from the issue of reliability. Many aren't comfortable using a client's condoms for fear of tampering, though if they're in the box with the plastic still in tact it's usually ok.