I think you've made the right decision, where the party sounds very kinky and interesting..saying it and actually doing it, are two very different things..I admire your concern and how you look after your wife..I wish more men were like that x
mysteron wrote:
Just Jenson wrote:
I havent read the replies, though I am sure they are full of god advice and I may be repeating some of it.
It appears that neither of you are comfortable for one reason or another - so may as well swerve this one in which ever way you see fit and have a weekend to yourselves.
Im sure there'll be other invites!
Thanks mate .
I am comfortable with it but I don't think my wife will be . She is putting brave face on . A type of thing you do in the name of love . But I won't be putting or risk putting her through it.
Yes your right there will be other invites and it will give us chance to reassess the situation when the ocassion arises . But for now I think I have to work on her body confidence with me alone in the bedroom first .Until she can get over that then undressing or potentially undressing in front of others isn't going to happen.
Definitely made the right decision if you ask me.
When I said you are both uncomfortable I meant she is with the situation, and you would be knowing that she is - so really neither of you will have a good time!
Body confidence is a huge deal for people of all shapes and sizes with no sure fire easy way to approach successfully.
One thing that might work is trying out yoga. Although it has nothing directly related to body confidence, you do get to 'learn' a lot about your body when practicing it and accepting the body you have.... just a thought
Just Jenson wrote:
mysteron wrote:
Just Jenson wrote:
I havent read the replies, though I am sure they are full of god advice and I may be repeating some of it.
It appears that neither of you are comfortable for one reason or another - so may as well swerve this one in which ever way you see fit and have a weekend to yourselves.
Im sure there'll be other invites!
Thanks mate .
I am comfortable with it but I don't think my wife will be . She is putting brave face on . A type of thing you do in the name of love . But I won't be putting or risk putting her through it.
Yes your right there will be other invites and it will give us chance to reassess the situation when the ocassion arises . But for now I think I have to work on her body confidence with me alone in the bedroom first .Until she can get over that then undressing or potentially undressing in front of others isn't going to happen.
Definitely made the right decision if you ask me.
When I said you are both uncomfortable I meant she is with the situation, and you would be knowing that she is - so really neither of you will have a good time!
Body confidence is a huge deal for people of all shapes and sizes with no sure fire easy way to approach successfully.
One thing that might work is trying out yoga. Although it has nothing directly related to body confidence, you do get to 'learn' a lot about your body when practicing it and accepting the body you have.... just a thought
Glitter&Pearls wrote:
I think you've made the right decision, where the party sounds very kinky and interesting..saying it and actually doing it, are two very different things..I admire your concern and how you look after your wife..I wish more men were like that x
Thanks guys and to everyone else with their input. I have to be honest I am really gutted at not going but I always have put my partner first . She is more important to me than any party . So we are looking at getting away for a night or two for our wedding anniversary which does clash with the timing of this party.
I have sent my RSVP invite back with a donation saying we can't make it for that reason .
As a further thought , perhaps in the future when I am convinced my partners body confidence has improved , I could use this as a basis of a roleplay. I think it could help to test if things are improving on that issue with her embarrasing herself in front of others .I will probably be able to guage how tense she is when she throws the dice . If she is tense then clearly she is not ready for this type of party .Her body confidence issue is probably worse that what it was last year so it is something I need to help her address. .
Just an idea.
Sounds like a great party!
But you're right, unless your OH is completely comfortable then I'd avoid.
Sex Squid wrote:
Sounds like a great party!
But you're right, unless your OH is completely comfortable then I'd avoid.
Yeah but I am still gutted. I think only one person said that i should go. Secretly and selfishly , I was probably half hoping more would have said go . But I know it would have been wrong and selfish of me and out of character as I have always put my partner first.
Other opportunities will come along but possibly not as kinky as this party .
It sounds like a lot of fun, but:
If you have to ask...