I also have a progressive neurological condition similar to MS that affects the whole of my right side. I also have fibromyalgia and a weird form of arthritis. The worst thing for me is the fatigue, though my balance is starting to worsen, too.
I’m pretty inventive when it comes to using everyday items to help me around the house and for my sex life but bought products are much better. One of my favourite items is my Liberator Wedge. Until Christmas, I’d only ever used it to help me have sex but I had a relapse that floored me over Christmas and the New Year so used it to prop myself up in bed to watch tell and eat. It’s still there as I’m not back to myself yet and the fatigue is worse than I’ve ever known it.
Enough moaning, though.
My sex life is hugely important to me and I refuse to give up so am happy to buy just about anything that’ll help. The one thing I own that I won’t be parted from is a doggy strap (I’m not sure the real name but that’s what we call it). Lovehoney doesn’t sell it and I’m a loyal customer so don’t buy elsewhere as the Customer Service here is amazing. However, my friend (an ex of mine) won’t usually buy online so pre-Covid we’d often meet and compare toys. I’ve also benefitted from her becoming single (forever, she says - she’s not had a lot of luck with men so can’t really blame her), as I’ve had some items she’s not got on with.
The doggy strap was one of these items that she no longer had a use for (hence I don’t know the real name). This simple padded strap with handles is amazing for doggy as I can’t hold the position for long and the strap (with my partner holding it obviously) keeps me from splaying Bambi-like.
Not only that, but the physics of using this also helps my partner keep in position. We’re a bit like one of those log-sawing teams when we have doggy as we kind of hold each other up! You’d probably find this ideal, Mr_Kink1 as you’d have support from your OH that might be great for doggy for you.
This is one item I’d love for Lovehoney to start selling (they might do already but I haven’t checked recently), along with a waterproof throw like The Throe. I don’t own a Throe as I haven’t seen one here, so I make do with a load of towels if I think there may be a bit of a mess. It’s not ideal as they bunch up, move around and obviously aren’t waterproof.
Hopefully, Lovehoney will see my plea (and know what products I mean) and start stocking them as they’d be helpful for anyone, disabled or not.
I was also lucky enough to get to test the position-enhancer chair. It arrived just after my relapse started so I had to make the effort to test it but it really did help as I could just sit there and let my partner get full access to do all the work. At a time when I had no energy to masturbate, this kept me going as there is nothing as depressing as being too unwell to orgasm.