I'm referring in the title to the types of games in which an OH must follow a set of instructions given by his/her partner which are either pleasing in themselves or lead to a pleasant outcome. There might be punishment aspects as well, depending on the tastes of the players. I'm not referring specifically to physical bondage games, although they are a possible example.
I have a bit of a kink for playing a Dom role -- but not the cliché of taking on a sadistic and domineering persona purely for my own satisfaction. Rather, I enjoy using my imagination to create controlled scenarios which I hope will surprise and delight my OH, and setting things up so that we can play them out.
For example, my OH might receive a sealed envelope containing instructions to take a warm and relaxing bath (using the sensuous products provided), then to change into a specific set of clothes (provided) and report to the bedroom. There might also be an indication of consequences if the instructions aren't followed properly.
Simpler examples might be:
- You will secretly wear these items of lacy underwear to work and you will regularly remind yourself how sexy you feel in them.
- You will read an erotic short story from this book whilst consuming these chocolates, and then report to me on what bits of the story turned you on.
- At 10 o'clock this evening, you will go to our bedroom and pleasure yourself with a vibrator for 30 minutes.
Do others here play these sorts of games? If so, then I'm keen to understand whether those receiving the instructions enjoy the overall experience of having to follow them, or if it's just a case of liking individual elements as they turn up.
My wife usually plays along and enjoys the tasks (as do I!). I get the impression, though, that she finds it a bit quirky to frame it all as a power game, and would much rather just be given a list of suggestions to decide "yes" or "no" between -- but she doesn't want to spoil my fun by saying so. We could do it that way (and I'd still be fairly happy with that), but I wonder first of all whether I might just not be selling the concept to her well enough.
Any thoughts or suggestions? Does one have to learn to enjoy playing out a submissive role in this way, or is it something that individuals either like or not in a fixed way? Am I just being selfish by persisting with this approach?
As a more general topic for this thread, what sorts of domination games do others enjoy? I'd certainly be interested to hear about them.
Thanks for reading this far!