I just wanted to hop on this thread and say Huxley is currently freaking out because i’m doing my make-up for a blog portfolio photo.
I’m wearing my grey crocs on my feet. I am not dressed to go on the pull, little guy 
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Oh god that must have been quite the shock for him 
It’s odd as we got the dog together, and as a tiny pup he leaped immediately into my husband’s arms, love at first sight for them, so it is strange that the role of ‘alpha’ seems to flip between us for him depending on what we’re all doing 
Oh bless you, no worries at all, I’d never expect an instant response and I’m definitely not innocent when it comes to leaving conversations for a tad longer than intended! 
(and totally forgiven on the other thread as well, I think I got everything out in that conversation and understand it’s an uncomfortable topic, can only hope the story helps others in some way as well).
No idea what goes on in his little furry brain to be honest, he definitely doesn’t like clapping or swatting sounds, I wonder if he thinks we’re attacking eachother and he needs to defend or something, but he wouldn’t directly harm us so it’s conflicting that we might harm eachother…? Hard not to anthropomorphise, but the little guilt face he pulls when he knows darn well we’re about to put him outside the room is so very convincing 
He adores a ball, but he isn’t a dog to play alone. He’ll bring it back to you, plop its wet nasty surface in your lap and wait for you to throw it again, only to return it to you neat and soggy once more.
Oh my husband definitely doesn’t think the dog hates him. I think he just is so fast to turn off that once the game is interrupted it may as well be over. Our holidays away are never long enough for us to get in the mood either it seems - I wonder if someone else on the thread was correct in saying we should just earmark a few days away with him in a kennel or something, but just to put another spanner in the works or three: 1) we’d feel bad and lost without our pooch on holiday with us, 2) the last time we had him in a kennel he was so scraggy and depressed when we picked him up we didn’t ideally want to leave him again, and 3) were both very hard to pin down on our ‘horn’ so if we book time for planned play, it tends to turn us off! Why are we like this?!
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He wants in on the new outfit! 
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Haha I hadn’t condidered the title when starting the thread honestly, maybe I’ll start another on furry shenanigans instead 
That’s really cool that you’ve stuck to your guns on training them. I do wonder if it’s also because we don’t ‘get busy’ very often that he’s just not used to it, but getting in ‘the mood’ more often isn’t exactly something one can force 
Thankyou! I wasn’t unconfortable on the other thread, just aware we were back-and-forthing probably way more than we should have!
Given how your behaviour is towards it he likely knows you’re having fun but you’re having fun without him and like, Muuum! That’s so not fair! That’s usually what it is, he’s around you and welcomed and then he’s suddenly not. The poor little guy probably doesn’t know what he’s done wrong (nothing, but dogs don’t understand that) to be ignored, hence he gets wound up.
But wet tennis balls are part of dog ownership and no, dogs don’t play alone because they’re pack animals. If you don’t like how a tennis ball feels, how about using a thrower, or a glove?
Oh we’re the same Huxley doesn’t even know the kennnels exist, he’s too cute to leave on his own and the screaming fit would tear us apart such that the guilt would never let us leave him again. Also the disruption for him, again, is likely to cause more havoc than it helps. I usually only use kennels in dire emergencies, not just because I want a few days from the dog
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That maybe but I don’t want white fur on a black outfit, it practically glows!
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I hear that, Roscoe is black and white, and somehow all his white comes out of his chest. And I almost exclusively wear black, his floof literally rivals the moonlight on my clothes 
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I think it’s something we may just have to live with honestly, and to be less upset if we’re turned off and the game is over.
I have considered going to Domme ‘sessions’ where someone literally teaches you what to do and how to speak. Just for fun, but not sure my husband would be as into that being watched in the act etc - I sort of love the idea of potentially being watched whilst being played with, but I think if it actually were a thing, I’d feel too violated (not in a fun way). The both of us have quite a few fantasies that remain fantasies for that very reason
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We have 4 of them. The dogs don’t seem to either understand or appreciate human copulation. Maybe its the hormones in the air. We close the bedroom doors and when we’re finished, they’re right outside. LOL
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Ugh, Domme sessions? Don’t you swear at me!
Being an ex-Domme myself (and having two subs try to come back to me and a third call me her “favourite” Dom in our polycule, not bragging, or anything ) I get a bit icky about people “teaching” people how to Domme: subs and Dommes are varied in their wants and needs, and no two subs (or Dom/mes) are the same. I know a sub, for example. who lives what I’d come to call a “high protocol” lifestyle: she likes strict rules, strict discipline, strict uniforms, strict everything, day in and day out. Sure, that works for some people, but that’s not for everyone, and certainly wouldn’t work for me. Also, there are some Dommes (and male subs) who really enjoy things like CBT, trampling, chastity and pegging. Again, fine, but not everyone does. So really, all we can do is teach the basics - safety, communication, consent. Being Dominant is more about checking in with your sub,exploring mutual kinks and leading them through the session than it is about bossing them around. When I see Dommes teaching other women to berate their sub because that’s what the sub supposedly “wants”? It makes my skin crawl. Some subs do, but not all, and that’s why communication is so vitally important.
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Always watching 
Totally get all of that, my husband isn’t fussy but he is anxious due to previous negative experiences of various kinds, and I think we match quite well given both our kinks, fantasies and hangups. He’s good with pegging, loves biting, rough tactile handling/massage, spanking etc.
I wouldn’t really be game for bossing him around, beating, stomping, chastity/permission to finish or anything, I think I’m more rusty on how to properly use a whip or longer crops etc, it’s been so many years now since we’ve done any of it that I think it’ll just be very slow going (whether the dog is about or not!) and thought ‘proper tool etiquette’ could be worth learning or at least practicing with but from your advice it sounds like a really unhelpful and uncomfortable experience, so definitely appreciate the heads up!