A quick reminder before we start that LH sex starts at 18, and to be careful of being overly explicit - but something I lay awake thinking about after the wind and rain woke me this morning...
Have your fantasies changed much from when you first started forming them? Sex is certainly a voyage of self discovery, so it's only natural that they will, but are they completely different, or are the underlying themes the same, and you've just evolved or changed scenarios slightly?
Did you go on to act out any fantasies you had when you were younger, or did they fall by the wayside as you gained experience? Maybe you tried something and found you didn't like the reality as much, and wished it had stayed pure fantasy?
Myself, as a slow starter and shy person when I was younger, definitely identified with wanting a female to take the lead...but it took many years to become 'comfortable' enough with my submissive tendencies to identify with them publicly.
I also spent many years wondering what it'd be like to sleep with a guy, but the reality didn't feel as natural to me as I thought it would. I can find men's faces attractive, and I love receiving anal, but I don't find the rest of their bodies as attractive, and I've certainly never fallen for a guy (their personalities tend to get in the way of that!). And despite the reality not living up to the fantasy I still do harbour fantasies about being 'used' by guys, especially for oral. Weird?
My dominant side has definitely evolved too. I don't recall ever having any fantasies of that nature when I was younger; yet I now identify as a switch, and I love dominating a woman. Maybe that's tied in with confidence levels, or maybe not - anyone here knew from a young (18) age that they were a strong dominant, and if so, did you feel confident in all other aspects of your life?
Lots of food for thought here 😊