Yep. It couldn’t be any simpler. Like any person, the woman you are supposed to love has hard limits. This is one of them and she’s told you. Respect it.
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So you are still considering doing it even though you have made a point of noting that she doesn’t you want to? You’ve asked a question and had a a fair few responses stating the same thing, its not a good idea and doing something without someone’s consent is not ok.
You mentioned in a previous post that you think she secretly wants you to? Thats an awful assumption. But if it is really what you think, hadn’t you better ask her first?
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But to answer directly, am I thinking to do “accidentally,” nope. I’ll just not resist so much, let her know well in advance if I’m going to cum n she can push me back or stop with her hand.
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In the scenarios you have discribed she was in control and could make her own choice.
In the scenario you are describing you are wanting to take that control away, which is why it is a bad idea.
You need to discuss it then respect her wishes.
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Are you for real?!
Holding back from saying exactly what I want to say so I’ll tone it down. Your wife deserves so much better.
(Apologies if this is out of line, but comments like this are absolutely not ok and should not be tolerated.)
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Would definitely avoid any accidents.
Never done it myself but can see the attraction, but better to be open about it and talk with her, than not.
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A quick thing on consent:
The absence of a “no” does not mean “yes”.
People should seek presence of an affirmative/enthusiastic “yes”, rather than simply an absense of a “no”.
Rather than focusing on how “infuriating” you find women, please consider your own responsibilities and reflect on your comments/actions.
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(Disclaimer: I’m not a mod 
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Please spare a thought for Rule 1.
1 No personal attacks or inflammatory behaviour
We want the Lovehoney forums to be a friendly place, where people can feel comfortable and confident. Debate and discussion is encouraged but personal attacks will not be tolerated.
By all means disagree (and as strong as you like), but don’t resort to personal attacks. 
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@Ian_Chimp whatever, going to ask whoever to delete my account anyway.
I apologise if that came across as anything other than a friendly reminder.
I’m sure if you rephrased your post you could still make a similar point without the need to delete?
@EmmaC1989 no no, don’t be deleting your account. It should be totally natural to feel anger when reading things like that. I sure felt it when I posted my comment which breaches the same rule, and even though I typed mine in the heat of the moment and now realise I could’ve worded it differently (after taking a few deep breaths 
), I’m choosing not to edit it because I feel strongly about the topic.
Don’t be going anywhere x
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I think everybody has managed to show their strength of feeling but direct that to the suggested action rather than to the person specifically (though there may be more implied ). I think saying ‘you are x y z’ is normally where we draw the line? Or am I going crazy?
It’s certainly not worth deleting your account over though. It’s a sensitive subject, and it’s bound to attract a bit of heat.
All understood, and I do agree with you @Ian_Chimp - there is a line. As you said, it is a sensitive topic… but it may be a subject that is much more personal to some than others so the initial anger can be understood.
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Absolutely. It was just a heads up, nothing more.
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Just to open this out a bit (as I think everyone’s in agreement that deliberately jizzing on/in someone’s face without consent is a really ignorant thing to do 
), but would this count for squirting too?
In my opinion, yes it is exactly the same.
Regardless of gender, orgasms and ejaculation aren’t always something you have a lot of control over so accidents can happen. It can also be easy not to fully communicate with a partner, particularly with a new partner, about exactly what is and isn’t ok. Someone isn’t automatically a bad person for something going wrong during sex. Intention (or recklessness) is the important thing; if you know your partner objects to something and choose to do it/let it happen then that’s wrong.
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Yes, I would say, as many forum members have said it is about consent.
Sex is meant to be enjoyable for both parties, so anything which isn’t consensual should not happen. IMHO.
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I would discuss it with her and maybe watch a sex scene together with them doing it. I think sometimes if you want to do something out of the ordinary to a vanilla type of person it can be a bit of shock for them. Never just do it to someone but you can express how you feel and show them that it normal. But end of the day if she still say no then that your answer.
Its not ok in any way to ‘accidentally’ cum on her face when she doesnt like it, nor is it ok to just do it when she next gives you a hand job because she accidentally did it before. If she didnt like anal but you accidentally slipped in and she didnt get upset would you ‘accidentally’ do it again? Its the same thing, and by just letting it happen and taking her control away would be like not telling her you’re going to cum during a blowjob despite knowing she doesnt like swallowing. They’re just some different scenarios that are the same in concept.
Its sneaky, underhanded, not mutually consented, and not ok at all. Sex is to pleasure both of you, its an intimate bond between you, if you make it just for you and disregard her by looking for loopholes and workarounds you’re breaking that bond and she doesnt deserve to be treated that way
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