PinkVixen90 wrote:
Thank you so much to everyone who responded (it has actually brought a few tears to my eyes). Your kindness and understanding, non judgemental replies have really reassured me. I just worry sometimes that if I were fortunate to meet that special someone, they may not be interested in me if I were to be completely honest and admit to being a virgin. I know there is nothing wrong with being a virgin but I don't want people to think that I'm a prude and not interested in sex because I am. It's just been through circumstances that I haven't yet met anyone I like enough to have a relationship with (I don't have any friends at the moment so I don't really get the chance to go out much).
I was recently tempted to have a fling with someone in order to get it all over and done with. I know that may sound terrible to some but curiosity was really getting the better of me. In the end though I doubt that I could go through with it (I'm not judging anyone for having flings btw. I believe everyone is free to do what they want) as I know I would get emotionally attached to the person.
Another thing I would like to add is that for all I may be a virgin, I still consider myself to be a sexual being as I love to use vibrators (especially the iconic rampant rabbits) and dildos (I have just purchased the 6' inch vibrating one. Can't wait for it to arrive!). I have a wardrobe full of toys and love using them on a regular basis. I do have times where I think it could be the closest thing I will ever have to an actual man but I guess I can't keep thinking like that.
Thank you so much once again for all your lovely, kind replies. Posting on here was nowhere near as scary as I initially thought it would be lol.
Hi PinkVixen,
Just as a response to this, I was a virgin until about 6 months ago (I am 22) where I decided to 'lose it' on a one night stand. I was sick of waiting, all of my friends had done it and I just wanted to get it out of the way and over with. From personal experience please don't give into the temptation like I did, keep on waiting until the right person comes along- and they will.
My night was painful, awful, embarassing and a complete cliche, the guy left the next day and now looks away whenever we pass in the street- mortifying! Not two weeks later I was asked on a date by my first ever boyfriend and when we had sex for the first time he actually made it a much better experience, still painful as hell but he looked after me emotionally.
I get the stereotypes you're likely facing, I heard them all before, people assume that because you're a virgin you're prudish or frigid, where that simply isn't the case! I am incredibly kinky and that has not developed in the last 6 months since losing my virginity. I spent a long long time waiting for the right person only to fall at the final hurdle and I regret it tremendously. As a side note, I have found that guys find it incredibly sexy to find a virgin, they get a weird kick out of it so don't let that bother you at all. There is nothing wrong with you, you just haven't found a person who deserves you yet, don't settle, it really isn't worth it.
xx