I was wondering if anyone else has had a similar problem to mine and didn't know where else to ask.
I'm in a long term relationship (3 and a half years together, 2 years of close friendship beforehand) with a fantastic guy, we have a brilliant and strong relationship, we're engaged, living together, and I'm currently 30 weeks pregnant with our first baby which was planned. Everything in our relationship is perfect apart from the complete lack of sex and I feel so bad about it.
Before we started living together everything was fine, but then when we started living together it all changed. I'm too self-conscious to have sex with him or let him touch me sexually. It was fine before, because every time I saw him I was wearing make up and looked nice and felt good about myself and he'd never seen me in a state. But now whenever I think about him touching me or having sex wtih him all I can think about is that this guy has seen me throw up all over myself drunk and then had to clean it off me. he's seen me ill with the flu, snot running down my face. he's seen me when i've been too ill to shower for a week. smelt my morning breath. dealt with my many mental-illness related breakdowns and I just feel too self conscious about it all to be sexual with him anymore. The only reason I pushed myself to continue having sex with him after I started feeling this way was for the baby, and since I've got pregnant we haven't done anything at all. I NEED to get over this mental block I have. I want to have sex with him, I am sexually attracted to him and I don't want to let this get in the way anymore but I don't know how to get over it. I can't feel sexy or attractive around him when he's witnessed all those things. I just end up feeling disgusting. Please someone give me some advice on how to get over this :(