Fingering thoughts on it

Been away for a while on the hols , myself and the OH we're talking about sex, and fingering came up...in our younger days she didn't really enjoy it, but like most things after many years you get to know your partner she she's she loves it and is a big turn on especially with the come here motion, what are your thoughts and do you have any tips or new ways of improving technique...

I think it’s underrated but I might be bias as it’s one of my favourite things.

I didn’t like it so much when I was younger either but I think that was because of the quick let’s-just-skip-to-the-sex attitude of the partners rather than the act itself. It’s much better with someone who genuinely enjoys doing it and adapts their technique to fit your preferences and body :)

Same here, I think most people think of it as something that you do when your first getting sexual but now with a partner who knows me he can being me to many many multiple orgasms with his fingers.

NatandTom wrote:

I think it’s underrated but I might be bias as it’s one of my favourite things.

I didn’t like it so much when I was younger either but I think that was because of the quick let’s-just-skip-to-the-sex attitude of the partners rather than the act itself. It’s much better with someone who genuinely enjoys doing it and adapts their technique to fit your preferences and body :)

As you say technique is important , what I do find arousing is when my partner is enjoying it she archers her back then grabs my hand to show me where to go or even sometimes she uses her own fingers..which drives me crazy but as you say enjoying and technique are the key ..

Its a great way to build up sexual tension before the main event. Depensing on kink level you can also taste or your partner can taste themselves from your fingers which creates a mentaly arousing image. Try massaging the clit with one had/mouth while you penetrate with the finger. I try to go up and curve in to stroke/tap the G spot area. Seperately in order or in combination has sriven my partners crazy. Think of your finger like a gun trigger, the trigger being the g spot.

My husband can finger me for hours (if he's gentle). It makes me feel safe and happy.

It is definitely underrated

My wife really enjoys my fingering her while I go down on her, a lot to be said for that! She finds it’s easier to squirt this way! And I enjoy it when I make her cum loads! Definitely underrated

As long as who’s doing it knows what they are doing I think it’s great, I used to hate it because they’d just sort of be really rough and then quickly move on to wanting sex, where as now it’s different. Makes a huge difference but as said above technique is so important! If done properly it’s one of my favourite things ☺️

Yes, now we’re both more at ease with each other and there’s no rush for sex, I do love my hubby bringing me to orgasm with his fingers. I can’t do it myself, something we will work towards one day. I think fingering is pretty underrated.

Being a guy i have always liked fingering my partners, for me it was never about getting her wet to move onto sex, as the older i got the more i learned on different methods slow fast, circular motion, this is one of the things i really like doing, I like to hear her and see her enjoy it which then turns me on and i have been known to cum just by fingering her and not being touched myself.

I think when it was less enjoyable from another person when I was younger because guys weren't that knowledgable and just thought it was hard and fast that did the trick...!!!

I love to tease myself, but I've got weird wrists so it's always much more comfortable for someone else to do it. I've reached orgasm from more normal circumstances to strapepd down and fingering.

I definitely agree with Justthe2ofus2007 - fingering is definitely way underated! It's a bit more time consuming but definitely worth it.

When younger, boys didn't know about the clitoris and just wanted to get their fingers in - but that was stil nice! These days it's an essential part of foreplay, but some men seem to have the idea (from porn?) that it should be done fast and aggressively. Really hate that, like it slow and sensual.

I love a fingering..but it's the word I don't like " Fingering " always makes me think of American pie and him fingering that pie 🤮🤮

Delboy 😂 reminds me of the same 😂

Yellow pages! who can remember their slogan.

Was it let their fingers do the walking? I hear that they are to pack up soon, is that right?

I absolutely love it when my OH uses his fingers, and paired with oral, it drives me crazy!

I love pairing finger play with oral

We love a bit of finger blasting, this is how Mrs dixie has her best orgasms

Fingers and tongue is always a winner for us, I find it really sexy to use my fingers when we’re kissing and feeling her getting “ready” for more. I like to use my fingers as a teasing tool as well, when we have submissive sessions I slide two in and go fast and hard then stop and stroke the clit a little. The stopping and staring and building up can turn her into a real mess when she finally does get to the big O. It’s completely underrated and maybe we should start “finger bang month” or “fruit and finger day” rather than “steak and blowjob day”

Delboy1991 wrote:

I love a fingering..but it's the word I don't like " Fingering " always makes me think of American pie and him fingering that pie 🤮🤮

I love the word 'fingering'. 🙂 It's really evocative yet completely unromantic, and it has a great cadence. It's a word you rarely see in love letters or poems.

While we were at a shindig, mingling // I indulged in a little light fingering //Which left her with a lingering tingling //And we just had to go home and fuck. 🙂

Pretty powerful stuff, I think we can all agree.

EDIT: It won't recognise my line breaks today so I've replaced them with '//'. As we all know, format is really important in highbrow poetry.