Uh, I’m 58 myself over here on my side of the pond.
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Sorry to hear that for ya.
Only one year did we have sex just twice in my 1st marriage. The other years were lean too but not that bad.
My 1st wife would always ask me what I wanted for my bday and I said for us to have sex with each other. With things I’ve said so far on this forum I don’t think many of you will be surprised to find out we never had sex on my bday in any of our 16 years of marriage.
She knew that’s what I wanted after she asked me what I wanted and I think she liked that it wasn’t going to happen. She was like that.
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“But, I’m in great shape for my age, nearly 75, and not ready to slow down anytime soon.”
You’re my role model… as that’s how I wish to be when I’m your age. 58 here and counting.
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I had a heart attack back in 2006, caused by the stress of my job, and not being in good shape. After that, I began a routine of working out and taking better care of myself. I changed jobs to a less stressful one to finish my career. I work out at least 1 hour a day, mixed cardio and strength training at home. That is the minimum. Then cycling in the summer, and snowshoeing in winter. I have not had any further heart issues since the first episode. Most people don’t go 20 years without having a repeat event.
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I think I’ve read most things you’ve posted here since you joined and never in a million years would I of imagined you were 75. Mate, that is awesome. I’m so happy you’ve not had a repeat event and hope you’re still here in another 25years teaching us how its done.
I tend to feel much younger than the calendar says. I work hard at trying to stay in good shape.I had a goal this year of trying to be the strongest I ever have been, it is a quest that probably will not happen. But at least I am trying. No matter what I do there is a.ways room to improve. Part of my fitness goal is to look so good my OH can’t keep her hands off me. So far that aspect has been a miserable disaster, she doesn’t seem to care.
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My OH really doesn’t like sculpted, toned bods. She finds them intimidating and has always been into the dad bod, thankfully.
Perhaps just keep doing it for you. She might find your new found confidence in yourself even more attractive than your actuial bod.
And I’ve just read your post at the top were you mention you were over 70 .. doh! I bet I’m going to find a dozen more now.
Taking care of myself is mostly for me. It gives me confidence I never had as a kid. When we grow up in an abusive situation it affects how we deal with life. Working to be strong gives me control of something, which I had little growing up. It would be nice if my OH would notice or care, she is self involved and seems not to be aware of much outside of herself, at least with me.
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Counting in masturbation, 5 times per week.
So, question, how do I bring up my desire for more intimate time together without sounding demanding or needy? We had a great time yesterday. It was lovely and we both had great orgasms. With so many distractions finding time seems daunting. We do have periods throughout the day and week that could work. It seems we always get intimate in the mornings after breakfast. Once the day gets moving it is difficult to find ways to move into a setting that can easily be conducive to intimacy.
Perhaps for now, let the morning become more regular and then one day, tell her how much you enjoy them. How much they mean to you. How they bring you together in a way that speaks to your love language. Then drop in how special it would be to be able to enjoy that at other times.
Leave it at that for now. She might mull over it. She might not. But the subject has been broached. It’ll be easier then for you at some point to suggest planning extra time together. Teling her again how much you’d love that and look forward to it. Enthusiasm can rub off. Sometimes.
Part of me wants to wait until our usual Sunday snuggle, but that will make nearly a week. And another part of me wants to scream IM HORNY AS HELL, and see how she reacts. She doesn’t seem to catch subtle clues, like me asking her many times over several years to please trim her pubes. I mean, how many times do you need to be asked?
Some people just never register hints. So maybe she’d prefer you to be direct? Maybe don’t scream .. but kiss her on the neck and then tell her .. look .. I’m really horny and I’d like US to do something about it. Or better words to that effect.
Tell her your needs and what you would like to do about it while inviting her input.
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Good idea……in theory.
I’m 50 and the OH is 47. Her libido seems to fluctuate quite a bit. She’s mostly happy with sex once or twice on a weekend. I’m the opposite where that doesn’t really satisfy me. We’ve been together 28 years and for the most of that time we both would admit our sex life was rather unadventurous. the last few years it’s taken off to an exciting level. But definitely find I struggle with the frustration of the frequency fluctuation.
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Sign me up for twice over the weekend. Midweek masturbation to keep sane.
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We’re married and mid 50s too and have sex every day
Make lots of memories,when you get into your 70’s it drops off a cliff.
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