Gender Euphoria & Sex

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Hello, welcome to the forum and thanks for posing these questions! If helpful for this discussion specifically, I am a cis/het man and my wife is a cis/het woman (she may also accurately identify as heteroflexible, hetero-ish, or bicurious).

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I’d also be interested to know if any cis people experience a euphoric feeling whilst taking on different roles? (I appreciate that these associations can be reductive!!!) For example, any cis women who peg their boyfriends - how do you feel about your gender when you do this - or does it not come into your mind?

• Being pegged is definitely a euphoric experience for me. It can feel especially wanton to be used as a receiver and often is paired with either my or her hands on my penis to orgasm. I don’t feel any sense of playing a different gender role, but it’s a different sort of being used solely for my own pleasure (from the acts themselves) in that while my wife enjoys giving it, no part of my body is stimulating her sexual pleasure, and all the parts of my body are receiving pleasure. It’s a very different sort of pleasure in powerlessness compared to when I’m restrained and she either sits on my face or rides me cowgirl.
• Wife loves the power exchange in pegging that is played out by the contrasts in our physicality: I’m 6"3, 210#, athletic build while she is 5’7, 160#, curvy build. She loves the view of me being bent over before her and fully submitting to receive whatever she gives at her will. There’s probably something in the reversal of penetration that plays into this - again, as a different experience than face-sitting/cowgirl power - that she has power over me and is giving it to me rather than receiving into herself. Does any of that make sense?

@sxctwnk

And/or are there things that stereotypically align with your gender as a cis person and that alignment gives you a euphoric feeling? (Not sure if that’s just a trans thing but imagine it could be universal…)

• Wife has examples that are definitely culturally loaded. She loves the feeling of her freshly shaved legs when they rub together. She loves a dress that swishes and heels that click on the floor. She may be further away from totally straight on the spectrum, but she loves dick and being penetrated and prefers my penis to other penetrating toys.
• I don’t have many regular occasions for it but I do enjoy having an excuse to put on a suit and tie. In western culture I’m not sure there’s much that symbolizes maleness more than that. The flipside of that is coming inside after a full afternoon of outdoor chores and yardwork that leave me coated in that film of dirt and sweat. That also feels like connecting to my maleness on something of a primal and euphoric level - having put my body, muscle, strength to productive and creative use.