I started this thread as myself, mamz and alone4ever were quickly taking over another thread and were completely off topic. We were discussing not fitting into a certain category with gender and/or sexuality. Eg. man, woman, gay straight. I hope we can continue our conversation and if anyone else would like to join in the discussion that would be great!
In response to alone4ever. It is heavy and it's hard to think about let alone talk about but I wouldn't say anything I don't feel comfortable with. In regards to autoandrophilia I realise it's not quite the same but it is helpful to know someone feels similarly to me. If I look it up on the Internet there is little about it which makes me feel like a complete oddball.
i do sometimes feel like this. I am gay, straight up to anyone asking but as my avitar is a lot different i have a much more different calling Anthropomorphism anima but many people seem to take it the wrong way and so have recloused into my own corner as i feel the great pressure from socitey
Great idea for a thread!
I've often said I only feeling like a woman when I am in the company of others. Being a woman is something I identify with when people treat me that way. When I'm home alone I often forget I have a gender.
I never really feel like a man, nor do I have any desire to be a man, but I often feel the masculine side of me is stronger than in many other females. I dress in jeans and a t-shirt most of the time, don't wear make-up apart from concealer and powder occasionally, straight-talk, am very practical, read non-fiction pretty much exclusively, and am not much good at being romantic. Why those are necessarily masculine traits is a whole new debate.... When I go on nights out with my female friends and their boyfriends, I usually spend the night with the boyfriends. I have a lot of male friends.
My sexual behaviour isn't typically female either. I have had a lot of one-night stands, casual sex partners, and I can be quite sexually compulsive. I'm just as likely to do the flirting and take someone home as a guy is to me. In fact, I can be pretty forward....
In terms of sexuality, I say I'm primarily straight so I guess I don't quite fit in one category. I don't consider myself bisexual because it's very rare I want to be sexually intimate with a woman and I have never been romantically attracted to a woman. I can't be completely straight though because I have definitely wanted to sleep with a couple of women and enjoyed sleeping with another, even though I wasn't attracted to her.
Jambal I understand, at the biginning my partner would tell me that I am a women wheter I like it or not and that I have to accept it and that I was ridiculus. I kept saying I didn't feel I am 100% a woman and he started to understand that it was serious and accepted it. No one should act like their something your not to feel accepted by others
VK is fine :) I think you are right, I'm greedy and want both lol! I think partly it's because of past experiences I can't see a woman as dominant. In order for me to fantasise about being dominant I have to imagine I am a man being dominant over a woman. To be honest I ponder about it often and it just makes no sense to me. I think I would be happy as either gender though.
A4E do you intend on taking any steps in order to feel more comfortable with your body?
Jambal please excuse my ignorance but what is Anthropomorphism anima? Even Google wasn't able to help on this one x
Vanilla_Kink wrote:
Jambal please excuse my ignorance but what is Anthropomorphism anima? Even Google wasn't able to help on this one x
aww thats perfectly alright :) its basicly for me feeling i am trapped inside this human body but where my soul and my own personaility lives out there with the animals specificly for me the orca hence the avatar. there are many different forms for the Furry fandom, that can be wearing fur suits of animals to engaging in sex while roleplaying that particular animal :) there is a large community of people that dress up in conventions :)
Thanks, I'm not much good starting the thread and then getting stumped on the first response! That sounds really difficult but I'm glad to hear there is a large community with similar feelings to you so you don't feel alone in it. I hope you have people you feel you can be yourself around and who you can enjoy that type of role play with. Am I right in thinking this is the reason for the animal tail butt plugs I've seen on lovehoney?
VK I can 100% relate to that. Only I feel like a woman can be dominant but don't want to be because I feel like I would be abusing my man. I imagine doing tjat being a man because for me it's more of a "normal" thing for a man to abuse a woman.
Vanilla_Kink wrote:
Thanks, I'm not much good starting the thread and then getting stumped on the first response! That sounds really difficult but I'm glad to hear there is a large community with similar feelings to you so you don't feel alone in it. I hope you have people you feel you can be yourself around and who you can enjoy that type of role play with. Am I right in thinking this is the reason for the animal tail butt plugs I've seen on lovehoney?
yes thats the exact reason for the aniaml tail butt plugs i have 4 and love every one!!
I feel like sex is something made for man to enjoy and the rôle of the woman is to give her man that. Does anyone else feels like this?
I agree they are very brave and do an amazing thing for themselves. You aren't greedy or selfish, you are going through something very difficult and really confusing. I hope so much you can find someone who will love you exactly as you are. I'm glad you at least have your friend who you can be yourself with.alone4ever wrote:
It means to want take on the shape of animals VK,
I like dressing as a woman, but I don't think anything like surgery is on the cards; I don't think the medical profession would go for that I'm not a true transgender; just a desperatley wishing.
I think TG's are incredibly brave, and feel really trapped; I just can't resolve my gender with the way I feel inside. I would still wish I had the real thing ; which makes me feel gready and selfish. I would love to have had kids literally.
I think what I need is an OH , who would love me to be feminine and dress that way for her; and accept that I find mens bodies sexy, even though I don't think I would want a relationship with one; but I only attract women who want to use me.
I dont know if this is the same thing but iam very much a girly girl and very much into men..i had a sexual thing with a girl years ago but it wasnt for me really...but when i watch porn i love men entering woman . And i get off on what the man must be feeling not the woman i always get off on the mans pleasure and what he must be feeling on his penis..iam totally obessed with my partner using strokers and realistic vaginas..and wish i could..does that make sense to anyone? Xx
Mummy mermaid it does to me I do the same when watching porn, but mainly because of what I said earlier
Yes mummymermaid! That is exactly what I am like x
Phew iam normalish then ^^ i dont think i want a willy though..i like being a woman..but the thought of feeling what a man must be feeling during sex ..turns me on so much..i think thats why iam struggling with anal and other things sexually...seeing or trying to feel from the mans viewpoint and getting really turned on . Then my womans body lets me down as it doesnt feel as enjoyable as i think it should ..does that make sense? XxVanilla_Kink wrote:
Yes mummymermaid! That is exactly what I am like x
A4E I know I just feel like whatever can be done to make the woman enjoy sex is gonna make men enjoy it even more so it can never be even
Mummymermaid, again it makes sens to me and that's why I have the feeling sex is better for men, that and the fact that it is really easier for them to enjoy it and to orgasm
Dont get me wrong though..i have several orgasms during sex and solo play and have a very enjoyable sexlife ..xxx