i have a mate who is into kinky stuff, and has Been open about them for years and years. He recently got a new need and they are well suited together, and are madly in love.
He opened up last week when I asked how him and her were doing, he gave it the usual "we are good" then went "but she isn't willing to participate in ANY sexual stuff, she's very vanilla when it comes to sex." To which I asked the usually, have you spoke to her about trying some stuff etc, or is she dead against it. "100% against all of it, just wants vanilla, boring sex"
He also told me how he missed his kinks and has messaged an escort and a few Dome to help "sort his craving" to which I said was wrong. My view is; he is in a loving relationship and shouldn't venture out of it for sexual stuff that isn't happening in said relationship. He should call the relationship off or bite the bullet on his kinks if she is certain she won't do or participate in. He agreed after a bit of back and forth.
now I've spoke to my Mrs and she agreed with me, but I'm wondering what others think? Am I wronf to basically call it cheating or am I right? I know if it was me I'd call the relationship if it meant that much to me and the partner wasn't willing to participate. But not everyone's the same. I know for a fact his Mrs wouldn't allow this yo happen, she'd end it if she found out he done it.
so what's others views on this? Am I right or wrong or is it one them situations?