Having sex vs making love

I think having sex is a gritty, lustful grapple which stems from a fire burning in your belly. A hard passionate, often rough hump. Sex is usually dirtier!

Love making is where you want to get close to your OH, sensual & meaningful. Love making is normally more controlled & slow.

If you're sweating & spent, it's Sex. If you're glowing & tingling, it's love!

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Mucky, what if you're all four??? :-P

sweating, spent, glowing AND tingling?

best sex ever??

:p

x

hahaha, possibly :-P

x x x

diddlexl wrote:

See I think you can break it down into 3 catagories:

  1. Making Love- This is slow and sensual, Usually lasts for quite a while, you spend a lot of time looking into the other persons eyes and its all very romantic.
  2. Having sex- This is a little more motivated. More varied positions but still a lot of touching and romance involved.
  3. Fucking- This is balls to the wall, hard pounding, wake the neighbours kind of action. Romance doesnt enter into the equation its just good old fashioned pornstar sex. Often involves spanking and dirty talk. Normal 0 false false false MicrosoftInternetExplorer4 /* Style Definitions */ table.MsoNormalTable {mso-style-name:"Table Normal"; mso-tstyle-rowband-size:0; mso-tstyle-colband-size:0; mso-style-noshow:yes; mso-style-parent:""; mso-padding-alt:0cm 5.4pt 0cm 5.4pt; mso-para-margin:0cm; mso-para-margin-bottom:.0001pt; mso-pagination:widow-orphan; font-size:10.0pt; font-family:"Times New Roman"; mso-ansi-language:#0400; mso-fareast-language:#0400; mso-bidi-language:#0400;}

Now all three are good at one time but if your in the mood for one in particular the others just wont do

wow i think u have got this in one i couldn av put it better myself tbh. i love a gd mix of all three and after a gd fuck sesh its great 2 just wind down and make slow sensual love after ...

lolwelshgal wrote:

wow i think u have got this in one i couldn av put it better myself tbh. i love a gd mix of all three and after a gd fuck sesh its great 2 just wind down and make slow sensual love after ...

Yep, i agree. When me and fella first met, it was the back to the wall type. Now we do all three......just depends on the mood and the time and the daylight!! lol.......we work shifts so have to catch it when we can.

Erm, today was a bit of all three.........tee hee!!

JJxx

amore wrote:

sweating, spent, glowing AND tingling?

best sex ever??

:p

x

Thats called a wank isn't it!?

lol. Wanking-sex with the person you love the most

Yep sex is fabbie but you can't beat the real thing can you !!!

TB

I think you can have all three even in a relationship, I don't spend every session having a brutal fuck or making love! And I dont think you need to be completely detached to fuck or have sex, for me the best bit about a really good shag is falling asleep spooning and sweaty with a partner you feel something for. But I think there's an awful lot to be appreciated in making love, when you get it just right and build up slow the orgasms are just mind-blowing! I'd say all sex is good really...

I'm not sure that I've ever had sex without some, or all, of the elements of love/affection/romance/foreplay.

In fact, one of the the most sexy and sexually charged affairs I had was with a girl who wished to remain a virgin. My God, we had some real fun NEARLY doing it. Nine months this went on.

But; I think a little 'tease and denial' would work wonders on many men.

I don't think i've ever actually 'made love'...which is probably a bit sad at 31!

Def think that people show their love by the little things...considering each other's feelings rather than just physically.

One ex carried on watching telly while we had sex once...not flattering!

red_queen wrote:

I don't think i've ever actually 'made love'...which is probably a bit sad at 31!

Def think that people show their love by the little things...considering each other's feelings rather than just physically.

One ex carried on watching telly while we had sex once...not flattering!

Ooh that's awfully rude, is there not a code of sex ettiquette that includes don't watch TV whilst having sex (except sometimes for porn maybe), hmm new thread idea, rudest (as in bad manners) thing someones ever done to you during sex? could be intresting no? x

bethania wrote:

Ooh that's awfully rude, is there not a code of sex ettiquette that includes don't watch TV whilst having sex (except sometimes for porn maybe),

What, not even match of the day?

LOL mucky!

xxx

I definitely use the difference every day. When me and my fiance want to feel close and I am not aiming for an orgam he usually leans down on me and cuddles while we MAKE LOVE.

Other times when Im horny and wanting an orgasm it is SEX.

We make love aroung twice a day and have sex around 3 times a day. Yes 5 times a day everyday at least lol.

u can have both sometimes making love within a relationship is 2 much about making love but sometimes we do a bit of role play doctors and nurses, strangers in a bar, handy man coming to fix my pipes and is good at fast erections then its a good HARD FUCKKKKKKKKK

My Oh and I make love more often than we just have sex. To us sex is kinky with bondage, toys and spanking but making love is being close and we look into each others eyes alot more. I never distinguished between the 2 before but now both are just as important. Xxx

diddlexl wrote:

See I think you can break it down into 3 catagories:

  1. Making Love- This is slow and sensual, Usually lasts for quite a while, you spend a lot of time looking into the other persons eyes and its all very romantic.
  2. Having sex- This is a little more motivated. More varied positions but still a lot of touching and romance involved.
  3. Fucking- This is balls to the wall, hard pounding, wake the neighbours kind of action. Romance doesnt enter into the equation its just good old fashioned pornstar sex. Often involves spanking and dirty talk.

Now all three are good at one time but if your in the mood for one in particular the others just wont do

I love all 3. And really right now, I could do with option number one. Im in a very loving mood.