Hey guys,
Had great feedback and suggestions from you guys before so thought I would try again.
So… I moved in with my boyfriend in Feb and you’d think we’d be at it like rabbits well… the opposite really, we’ve both got insecurities about our bodies and because he is my first sexual partner, as much as I love and trust him completely, my brain just keeps freaking itself out, one second I want to sex with him and the next I don’t.
At the moment tho I’m just not feeling horny at all and I don’t know why and it’s really getting me down as I know it’s effecting my boyfriend as I just stop us from being sexual at all. I don’t know what’s wrong with me it’s like my brain just shuts down. I have spoken to my boyfriend about it a little but I don’t think I got the point across that well as I can’t describe it myself and I think my boyfriend thinks I’m not attracted to him sexually, which is not the case as I am attracted to him. I have changed from the pill to the implant recently but don’t think that’s got anything to do with it.
Any help or advice is greatly appreciated
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You’ve been living together two months, that’s a big change and a lot of stress for you both. Homes also require running, which can leave you feeling tired and unsexy.
I remember when my now-husband and I got out first home back in 2011. We weren’t at it like rabbits either; we were trying to learn how to co-exist with one another, even if we knew and loved one another. It’s a very strange time.
Add in that you both have insecurities, you’re probably both trying to co-exist in this new arrangement and both not upset the other. You’re attracted to him, but does he know that?
Do you guys have a date night? Plan low-key date nights together and rekindle the relationship again. Even if it’s a candlelit Domino’s pizza and Friday night TV, it still counts, and what will be will be. Also, don’t put emphasis on full sex – mutual masturbation or oral sex is just has fun!
All the best to you both 
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Thank you this means a lot 
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You’re welcome, I hope it helps
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Moving in together is a big change in your life. Having any insecurities about your situation can put a damper on your sex drive, even if you get along together just fine. It doesn’t take much stress to drop your sex drive. Give yourself some time to adapt to the new environment, and spend more time relaxing together in non sexual ways. As you get more comfortable with each other and the new arrangement I think your libido will recover. Good luck, and relax, you’ll probably be fine.
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