Hi everyone! 
I joined the forum over a month ago. But have been reading rather than posting. I guess im quite shy 
im here to get tips on how to keep hubbys and my sex life interesting in or outside the bedroom. I dress up, use toys and have bought quite a lot from love honey.
Hubby wants me to dom him, ironically for someone whos usually quite bossy and forthcoming its unatural to me, im more of a brat.
Anyway thanks for reading
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Pull up a chair I have tea or coffee with homemade shortbread to share while we wait for people like @batjamboree and @Tenshadesandme and @lilly30 who can talk about being a dominant from a woman’s perspective. If hubby has a stressful job he’s probably looking for release from those stresses and with someone he truly trusts wholeheartedly.
So while everything is done with consent at its heart, I hope you find the balance for you both, while you can be a bratty Dom caring for your subs needs are paramount too.
If you are comfortable answering what have you done so far?
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Evening and welcome 
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@user20 - nice to hear from a fellow woman and I am happy to share and talk about bringing does back in your life
I’m 50 now and about 6 years ago our sex life was dead - but we had a honest and open talk and it worked
We started role reversal- he started wearing my knickers and I started spanking him and dominating and I started to accept being a big deviant and asking for things such as sex toys and oral
It’s vital to talk with a clear head and set guidelines and bf very open minded - my husband shocked me when he asked for pegging as I thought it was gay - but now I ask to do it as I love to see his face (pleasure) as I peg him
With spanking - take time to perfect - it’s not all hit hit hit - it’s the talk as you spank - tease him and walk around him (wearing your best dominatrix lingerie) with the paddle in hand and start soft but increasingly taking it harder and harder - (stop when very red)
Happy to discuss more in detail
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Helloooooo
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G’day, I’ll leave it to the experts to give you more advice.
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Hi and welcome
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Welcome to the forum! 
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Hi how are you? edited by mod 
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Hi @user20
Welcome to the forum 
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Welcome
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Hi @user20
Welcome to the forum!
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@user20 Welcome to the font of most knowledge. You’re going to love it here.
I’m like you. Bossy to the outside world and relatively shy in bed and my OH wanted me to be dominating. Totally agree with the comments above. I posted a similar question and was given excellent feedback. @Tenshadesandme, @batjamboree and others gave me specific advice and it has worked wonders over the past week or so. I would say that communication is key. I stopped suggesting/asking and started to tell him what he has to do and give him a time limit in which to carry out his tasks.
Sending you both positive vibes for your journey 
and look forward to hearing where you travel together.
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Thank you, i would say his job can be stressful, homelife is stressful too.
We’ve spoken about boundries, what he’d like from it. Just yet to try it. I think i need to get out of my head, i dont want to get it wrong.
Hi and Welcome
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Mrs W here …
Hi and welcome to the Forum @user20 … hope you enjoy it on here and get some advice …
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Hope you can both reduce your stress at home it’s never fun when there is no where or way to let it go. Hopefully this suggestion will help you get out of your head and let the fun in.
You can’t get it wrong with open and honest communication a safe word for No! A word for okay! let me have a moment and we can come back to this, and most importantly, a YES please! More with sugar on top please 
Start off small, something like walking past him in the kitchen and give his butt a good hard smack and leave saying good subs who wash the dishes get more smacks on their bare bottom you will see him when he’s finished.
When he’s finished ask how many cups he washed (say 2-5 cup)s and have him bend over the sofa/chair and then ask for feedback with each smack. More power or less to find his threshold and your own.
Then once rosy maybe a handjob or bj with gentle nails over the reddened flesh.
Understand your situation might not allow you much free time when you’ve described your home life.
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Hi and welcome to the forum, you have come to the right place, lots of great advice. The dressing up and LH toys sounds like a great start.
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@user20 - good play will relieve stress
Take time to go though Lovehoney items together and choose what items both of you would look to try - it’s fun to browse
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Thank you for the advice and tips! I will certainly give this a try!
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