I’m a rolling past middle age man who had always been uptight and had my own minds eye image of what I should look like and appear like to match my younger reputation as a masculine fighting and motorcycle riding hero…
Things change in 2007 when I was hit head on by a drunk driver who was traveling at aprx 135 mph…
After I live through that I was retired from my automotive career to then try to recover from my extreme bodily damage and my emotional turmoil…
I eventually started to remember who I had used to be, but I didn’t feel all of it that it took to feel those shoes… I just wasn’t the same anymore and I’ve set out over the last 18 or so years to figure out who I am now… though I’ve shown I can still be that no bending closed minded fool that used to love the bad as reputation and everything that followed it… I just don’t feel it and have been told by ladies when undressed that nothing about me fits the image that they have grown to have about me from what they’ve heard people say about me… I guess the first surprise is that I’ve come to see pubic hair as being kind of gross, and apparently my ring hairless from above my knee caps to bellow my belly button is the first shock to a lady who thinks they know what to expect due to my rep and stories people still live on.,
I am very open minded and have tried many different types of experiences since I recovered…
I don’t care about tough anymore, I care more about all people and save judgement for a higher power, instead of being peoples judge of what my own minds eye believes someone should be… or my old minds eye before my accident…
Im not gay or curious abut that but I now have gay friends because I’ve learned how to listen and live and let live…
Im scared to show anyone from my past the soft side of me that never existed before… people take kindness as weakness…
I live in a different town now and most of my friends are female cause I’ve come to learn that women accept people for who they are…
I had a bad experience from me when I was young and that led to the meanness and violence I used to have no trouble showing a man… so the men friends I keep are life long friends and I still don’t let new men I met anywhere near my bubble…
I don’t know what else to say or if anything I’ve typed makes any sesnse to anyone besides myself…
Im open to chat, questions, experiences , and seek answers to a lot of sexual questions an open minded person might have… ask, comment or suggest, I will do my best, and I always try to be real!!
Thanks for letting me join…
AKA Cowboy
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Hey Cowboy, welcome to the forum!
That was a really honest intro, respect for putting yourself out there. It sounds like you’ve been through hell and come out the other side with a whole new outlook on life. There’s nothing weak about being kind or openminded- if anything, I’d say it shows real strength.
You’re in the right place to explore, ask questions, and just be yourself without judgment. Looking forward to seeing you around! (:
Hello and welcome to the forum! It’s a great place to share your thoughts and questions in a safe and welcome environment.
G’day and good on you being you.
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Hi @Open_minded 
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Good people don’t. I’ll be honest, I think I’d prefer the new you to the old. It sounds like there used to be a lot of bravado in your life. Your accident, and probably just getting older as well, has made you realise what’s more important to you than status and reputation. I hope you find happiness and good people in your new town.
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Greetings and Welcome @Open_minded Cowboy 
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@Open_minded Hello and welcome to the forums .
Welcome to the forum @Open_minded , what an introduction you made!
First of all, I’m sorry to hear about your accident. As the daughter-in-law of a retired motorcyclist myself, I do firmly understand what we’ll call the “biker mentality” and the way that bikers can be. What I’ll also say and know to be true is that many bikers aren’t bullies really, they are just very, very protective. I’ll admit it, it’s something that I sort of love about having a retired motorcyclist for a father-in-law - I have a retired biker father-in-law, but I don’t have many problems!
The other thing I’ll say about people is that people do judge and form opinions of people, let them. I often hear “you don’t look disabled” or “you don’t seem like the sort of person who would be kinky”, I am both. People like what they like, and don’t like what they don’t like, and if you don’t like body hair? That’s your business, as long as you can respect people who do like it.
People take kindness as weakness? Yes, I agree, but that’s a fool’s game. I’ve had many people take my kindness as weakness before, only to be taken by surprise by my strength. Strong people don’t need to intimidate people, they already know their own strength. Leave the playground behaviour to the infants. we’re adults here.
I’ll leave that here, but I hope to engage with you more in future on the forum.
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Welcome to the forum sir and great first post! Very insightful and also sounds like you’ve had quite the traumatic time too. Can’t imagine how it must been like trying to rediscover yourself again while adapting to the after effects of a crash.
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Hey and welcome,