Just curious as to how confident everyone is and also what knocks your confidence. Just because I know most of the time I'm quite a confident person (around 7/10) but I find that sometimes something can happen and my confidence gets knocked right down
on the forums 10/10 in real life about 2/10
with people I know, Im confident and organised but outside of my comfort zone I revert back to the self conscious me I hated when I was younger, until I find my feet.
Overall pretty confident so 7/10
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Yeah I'm the same - I'm pretty confident behind the computer but less so in real life. My low self confidence is based mainly on my health and body image do if something happens which affects those then it knocks my confidence.
Im more confident In real life, people might not get me on the net.. Confidence is beauty.X
This question worries me because I don't know how confident I am. How do you know?
i'm 10/10 on confidence both on tinters and in the real world, however, i am a wreck when first sleeping with a woman. i actually hate the first time cos of nerves.
I am about 7/10, sometimes more, sometimes less. After shopping for cloths, less, but when I manage to do something which is hard and takes time and skills to do I can go to 10/10. Generally apart from shopping my confidence suffers after argument with my mother (as full time student I am still dependent on my parents at least partly, as I cannot finance it all by myself), also when I mess up something my confidence goes down
1/10. I have moments of bravado and misplaced self-belief, but it always comes crashing down. It's a shame; I like to think I could be good at things, and sometimes I get right into the middle of something before I cock it up, but I don't think I have anything to be confident about.
Mr Monster wrote:
1/10. I have moments of bravado and misplaced self-belief, but it always comes crashing down. It's a shame; I like to think I could be good at things, and sometimes I get right into the middle of something before I cock it up, but I don't think I have anything to be confident about.
You can be confident that you are a knob. Fact.
You have so much to be confident about lovely! Look at yourself through other people's perspective and realise just how wonderful you are (and yes I'm aware it's easier said than done but I'll keep saying it until you believe it!)
Adx
Alicia D'amore wrote:
Mr Monster wrote:
1/10. I have moments of bravado and misplaced self-belief, but it always comes crashing down. It's a shame; I like to think I could be good at things, and sometimes I get right into the middle of something before I cock it up, but I don't think I have anything to be confident about.
You can be confident that you are a knob. Fact.
You have so much to be confident about lovely! Look at yourself through other people's perspective and realise just how wonderful you are (and yes I'm aware it's easier said than done but I'll keep saying it until you believe it!)
Adx
This!!
I know its easy for us to comment because they're not our insecurities but we wouldn't say it if it wasn't true!
Alicia D'amore wrote:
Mr Monster wrote:
I don't think I have anything to be confident about.
You can be confident that you are a knob. Fact.
Thank you. Thank you so much.
I've had about as much of other people's perspectives as I can stomach for one lifetime, thanks.
Sorry, reading that back it sounds like I didn't get the joke. I got it, it was a compliment, but still, my comment stands. It was other people's opinions that got me into this mess in the first place. Why would I want more of that?
Mr Monster wrote:
Alicia D'amore wrote:
Mr Monster wrote:
I don't think I have anything to be confident about.
You can be confident that you are a knob. Fact.
Thank you. Thank you so much.
I was joking....you do know that don't you?
I worry about upsetting people but, well, you know my opinion - I think you're silly for feeling like that, even though you can't help it and you are working on it which takes balls in my opinion (knob and balls in 2 posts, I'm not doing very well am I?) but still, I wish you didn't feel those things because you shouldn't.
It was the statement "I don't think I have anything to be confident about" that made me sad (not at you - just at the fact that people as nice, clever, funny, etc. etc. can feel like that) it shouldn't happen like that. People who deserve to feel good *should* feel good! (Idealistic but we can dream can't we?)
Adx
Mr Monster wrote:
Sorry, reading that back it sounds like I didn't get the joke. I got it, it was a compliment, but still, my comment stands. It was other people's opinions that got me into this mess in the first place. Why would I want more of that?
good!
You have to learn which opinions matter!
Mine do...always
Adx
-5 or so
im an anxious, self conscious, introverted, awkward mess of a human being
chipNroll wrote:
-5 or so
im an anxious, self conscious, introverted, awkward mess of a human being
You're another one. You're so lovely - you deserve to feel good!
I hate when people deserving of happiness and positivity struggle to find it! It makes me so sad!
I've been so lucky in the short time I've lived and I wish I could share a bit of my happiness, positivity and luck around! *sighs* if only it worked that way!
Adx
chipNroll wrote:
-5 or so
im an anxious, self conscious, introverted, awkward mess of a human being
.... with a fantastic rear. I mean, really, you should get at least +7 points from that alone, regardless of your other qualities.
Sorry to keep bringing it up, but it's right there on the page, for goodness' sake!
2/10
I can do certain things if i put my mind into it, but im not good at talking to people, going clubbing or having my photo taken. I get really self concious when shopping for things and think that shop assistants and the public are judging me on what i buy.
Alicia D'amore wrote:
I've been so lucky in the short time I've lived and I wish I could share a bit of my happiness, positivity and luck around!
Naaaah, generally you just make the rest of us feel envious...
Seriously, Ad, seeing people like you just living their lives and being happy helps to put things in perspective for me. I realise I don't have the most balanced view of myself or the world, but it's still the way I feel and I refuse to pretend otherwise, at least online where there's no social compulsion to appear to be normal. I pretend enough already.