yesterday was the worst day of my life. it was the day the man i love left me. with no explanation other than "i dont feel the same anymore", im devastated, distraught, im in agony, my whold worlds been turned upside down. im torturing myself going over everythings thats happened the past 3 years we were together, trying to figure out what went wrong. its doing my head in, so i felt the need to just type it out. i dont want to bore you or pathetically go on and on. if your willing to listen, ill go on...
let me star from the beginning, this came as a great shock to me because i thought we were happy, we were saving for a deposit for a house which we were going to get later this year, he constantly went on about babies and the future, i thought we wanted the same things.
2 weeks ago he asked my parents if he could propose in the next couple of months. 1 week ago we had a bit of a small tift, spent the ight apart but sorted it out the next day and everything was fine, him telling me he loved me and wanted to spend the rest of his life with me and i am the best thing to ever happen to him. wednesday. 4 days ago, i picked him up from work, we were cuddling and kissing and telling eachother how much we loved one another. 1 hour later he just changed. like jeckle and hyde. went quiet, distant. i enquired as to wahts up im moaned out for lecturing him and being paranoid and stupid. thursday, we worked opposite shifts. he left for work on the morning without even saying bye. i text him asking why and he starts having a go saying that im lecturing him and anything he does i always moan at. we got into a text argument. i said that we needed to talk about it. friday afternoon. i wait 2 hours on a carpark to pick him up from the trainstation. i see the train, terrified of what might happen, i was crying, he got into the car, without talking like we were supposed to and just said "i want to break up" ...
i burst into more tears, i had a panick attack, he left me there. at that moment i wanted to end my life, stupid as it may sound, but he was the only good thing in it. im having problems at work, hes just started a new job, my health isnt great, im waiting to have a scan of my ovaries cause im constantly in pain. which im terrified about. we were meant to be going away for a few days for valentines, wed arranged a romantic time together, wed arranged parties, gigs festivals and most importantly the buying of the house, this was going to be our year. see im crying again now, im just in disbelief, i cant believe this has happened. were not one of those couples that argues constantly and breaks up gets back together breaks up etc. i truley love him. so whats changed for him?
ive spent the past 3 days crying, ive struggled at work, i have no energy after all the panic attacks, im not eating or drinking, i cant bring myself to get out of bed.
after he ended it yesterday. i calle my brother to come and get me as i was still in the carpark having panick attacks, alone. i couldnt move and needed him to drive. i got home. my mom ran to his house starts having a go, calling him a lying bastard as hes telling his family weve had loads of troubles for months, i knew nothing.
i left it, stayed up all night, crying my heart out.
the joint account needs cancelling for the mortgage, my mom rang his mom to get him to sit down like an adult so we can sort it out.
i went to his earlier today, burst into tears. we went upstairs to talk in private, he hugged me and held me but he had a 'wall' up, a defence, i pathetically begged and begged to just try to fix things, what things i dont know as he hasnt still given a reason. im willing to do anything. i love him, i will alwasy love him. he finally went to say he love... then his mom barged in, instantly this wall went back up, is there a 3rd person? either his family or someone else, even though he swears blind theres no one else.
the only problems i know of us having is a small sexual one, we dont have alot of sex due to a problem he has with his hormones. i get quite fustrated sometimes but never make him feel bad. i try not to anyway.
hes not one to class sex as something important and neither am i
i cant believe its gone from great to everything being ruined.
i cant get my head around the fact that he doesnt want me anymore. theres got to be a reason...
i cant handle this, im taking it very badly
im trying to get him to talk but he wants a few days, fair enough, but i dont want to leave it to late to try and work things out.
and im sick of family and friends saying "your too good for him" "his loss" "plently more fish in the sea" i dont care, i dont want to hear all that because i just want him and only him, ive given my evrything to him, i do everything for him. its like everythings been thrown in my face. i cant be with anyone else in that way, we always joked that if this ever happened id become a nun. thats when we thought this would never happen...
i fell like hes just got bored of me and has threw me out with the rubish.
i need help, advice, a hug, anything...
i propabally havent covered everything but my heads so messed up right now.