What’s the most wildest kink she likes in your opinion? in your letter you could talk about it and then say about your kink. Do you like all her kinks?
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@teacake the wildest thing we’ve both done together is “light” anal play on both her and myself so I know shes very open minded. Pegging is very much in our future but its a struggle as we dont yet live in our own house together. But I think the idea of lingerie will be easier to approach once we’ve tried pegging as I know shes definitely in to that
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Fabulous 
definitely brink up your kink in the letter, I think you will be pleasantly surprised.
Is there a kink of hers that is just hers something she hasn’t done yet?
Where you like to crossdress does she have a solo kink?
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@user408
I’m so similar
Been a closer lingerie wearer since my late teens
Stopped wearing when we married late 20’s
Started wearing again after the guts I was camming with wore wives panties and their own lingerie
I can’t see a way to tell her about it
I’ve been close a couple of times
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I agree with what @teacake has said and think opening up to her and explaining what you find nice about the idea of it…
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It’s hard to wear feminine and be feminine when you look masculine and act masculine, is what I have found, so I can appreciate how you feel. But I’ve pushed on with my love for lingerie and the different styles, fabrics and colours and my wife and I get lots of enjoyment from it. I’m not great at making suggestions or giving advice. But if you feel the need to express part of yourself through lingerie, then that is very much part of you and it would be unfair on yourself and your girlfriend to not explore and open up about it. I wish you all the best!
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@Janes I’m masculine generally but I’ve two personas on cam in my lingerie I either play sissy and I’m kinda cheeky and slutty or I play just me showing the guy how much I’m turned on by wearing my lingerie
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It’s a bit reversed here @user408 My o/h likes lingerie but I’m not bothered really. She has tried without much success to get me more interested when she wears it and has got me to try on her stuff a few times.
I found it a bit more arousing when we swapped during play, but not yet convinced about it.
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Sorry to go off thread a bit. But I feel amazing in my lingerie and would love to do some cam work and just sharing love of lingerie with others. How do you get into that side of things?
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@Janes I started on line cam on chaturbate about 8 years back
From there I used Sky pe for years
Picked up lots of naughty guys who just enjoy either camming and wankin or dressing up in lingerie like me
Skyp e is finishing soon
So I set up a Telegra m account and had a couple of cams on there now
@user408 I totally understand where you’re coming from as I was in the same boat. The anxiety around it is awful! I’m 6’1, athletic build and since secondary school loved wearing thongs which I kept a secret.
With numerous ex-gf’s I tried different ways to introduce me wearing them, like purposely losing bets, giving lap dances (so I could strip down to one) and even asking to borrow theirs if I’d stopped over and purposely forgot my boxers. Thankfully, the majority of reactions were positive, especially when I got together with my wife. I don’t know if when I approached the subject with my wife about wearing thongs, they were all male cut ones, if that made a difference or not?
For the last 8 years or so, crossdressing has been introduced which I love. My wife confessed to always enjoy seeing men crossdress for things like Rocky Horror etc. Well that was the opening I needed, so for any fancy dress opportunity I got, where it felt ‘safe’ I’d crossdress one way or another. I would highly recommend going to a night at Rocky Horror!!!
It\s taken time but I’ve got multiple PVC/Wet look outfits, few pair of size 13 thigh high boots, I know I’ve dropped on my wife, I hope it goes well 
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On my dating profile I have:
We are going to watch The Rocky Horror Picture Show who are you going as?
This would also be good to drop into a conversation with a partner.
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There’s lots of great advice and empathetic experiences on your thread, I hope you’ve taken some confidence and ideas from them.
For me I don’t like to be presented with a ‘new’ kink at the time of sex. But H and I share videos, forum posts, stories etc about the things we’d each like to try via messaging. For us it’s a nice way for us to consider what the other is suggesting without the pressure of an immediate response. To be honest though so far all replies have been pretty quick
. Yippee. 
Open communication is best. x
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@Sergio32 thanks for sharing your experiences, its comforting to know that other men are in a similar if not same boats as I am
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@ApolloSwallow Definitely gained more confidence, still not ready to talk to my partner just yet but I have a clearer idea of how to possibly approach the subject. Thank you for your advice too!
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Hi user408. A lot of advice has passed under the bridge so you may have already reached a point where you’ve had enough … but in case not, here goes.
I’ve twice revealed a kink to my wife as they have developed: the first time with wearing tights/pantyhose, the second time with stockings and suspenders. Both times went ok.
Personally I wouldn’t go down the big surprise reveal. That strikes me as a high-risk approach that could work but could also backfire.
Have a conversation about it but through the prism of your relationship.
Maybe emphasise that after two years you feel safe to reveal something deeply personal/private with her.
If it’s the case, make the point that wearing items she would wear gives you a physical connection to her through the feel of the clothes or adds to your visualisation of her when you are not together. Or maybe you think it would be fun to have a matching item to wear together.
I guess the bottom line of what I am saying is try to infuse the conversation with a positive focus on your relationship and how the kink can tie in with that. If she knows from the outset that the kink is a potential enhancement for the strength of your relationship, rather than starting by wondering if it’s an outside force with unpredictable consequences, it will reassure her as she learns about it.
If she is reassured first, the response will more likely than not involve giggles, gentle amusement and, if you’re lucky, so much more.
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A really lovely, well worded piece of support and guidance @stockingslover1
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I hope this is bringing some positive responses My wife and I have been a few times and the amount of female attention I’ve received has been unparalleled.
In answer to your profile question, Magenta was who I went as last time and I’d do the same again 
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@Sergio32 I haven’t that long put it on my dating profile as I’m only starting to feel I want to date again, I thought this will be the perfect way to see if they might be compatible.
A good choice Magenta, My answer will be the first part will be Frank N Furter then the second half Magenta.
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@stockingslover1 thanks for your advice, its definitely welcome and it definitely increases my confidence and hopes for the future with my gf
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