My desires have changed massively in the last 10 years or so. Situations that would have been a massive turn off for me back then, do the opposite now. Shame my wife doesn’t share my opinions on the matter. So my turn ons will forever remain my fantasies.
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Actually decreased dramatically…. just being honest
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As an older male, im still kinky AF and actually enjoy myself more now.
I wouldn’t say that my sexual interests have changed, rather that I appreciate certain things much more and am more willing to embrace things that I have only thought about in the past. Cliches like ‘you only live once’ and ‘life is to be enjoyed’ come to mind. Also, concerns about whether certain things might be considered weird have had to be overcome.
I am aware that many of the topics and discussions here on the forum concern those in a relationship which, being single, are not especially relevant to me. However, I obviously want to have a fulfilling sex life so I therefore try to adapt things to my circumstances as much as possible, fully enjoy what I am interested in and make more use of fantasy.
I have always enjoyed masturbation but now fully appreciate it as the normal and healthy activity that it is and enjoy exploring the use of toys. Female lingerie has always appealed and I am now fully embracing that interest and getting great pleasure from it.
So overall my desires haven’t changed, it is more that I have resolved to fully enjoy them. After all, a happy and healthy sex life can be an important part of a good quality of life in my view.
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I have definitely become more open to new sexual desires the past couple years.
My wife is pretty open to most things. But we are both committed to not pulling in other people. The topic has not been discussed though.
But, back to how I’ve changed. In the more distant past. Pretty basic sex like PIV, some masturbation both solo and mutual, oral and other more vanilla things. We had very basic toys, usually a single go to toy was a vibrating dildo to help her. While kids were still in the house more focus was o. Them. Now we are trying newer things! 
Many more toys on hand. Strap on mainly for her to use on me. (Although that hasn’t been very often yet.) Several new dildos, clitoral toys various vibrators and some male toys like P-toys, fleshlight etc. More anal play for me sounds fun and we’ve just ordered several lingerie items and I’m hoping for that to lead into both of us wearing that around the house together and expanding our wear of sexier things for each other. Even hoping that she will encourage some private CD play along with roleplay and other kinky stuff.
Exhibitionism would be fun as well. Not sure about going to a club setting where that is allowed, but for sure nude beaches or just outside on our land out in the country.
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Desires have remained fairly similar over time, a few new things we do here and there.
It’s the confidence that’s the difference. It’s easier to have conversations and bring new topics up. Kink plays a big part in our bedroom activities more so than ever.
I would love to be open about sexual relationships, meeting other women
Definitely.
From an extremely vanilla, nothing-existed- except-PIV over-18 teen to … well, now. Age and experience shows you just how naive you were back then.
Very much so.
In the last 20 years of knowing this wife,we started with vanilla sex with a bit of oral.
Then started trying different positions, her on top, cow girl, reverse cow girl and doggy.
As the O.H.got more confident with me and her body, dressing up, face sitting, 69.
10 years in probably massaging each other totally naked.
15 years onwards, much more daring and intimate, anal play, rimming.
Recently, I want to have anal sex (penetrative)
on my wife, and want to try being pegged by my wife.
Here’s hoping, fingers crossed.
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I can relate to your experience @paulsballs After years of fairly vanilla but enjoyable sex with oral being the least vanilla aspect I suppose, we now have a much more varied sex life.
I have become less repressed sexually and have opened up about my kinks and desires. I also sleep naked and am totally comfortable being naked when not having sex - I like it.
We use many more toys, lingerie and have experimented with different positions. I 
anal play (mainly on me at the moment) and am hoping my OH will discover the fun of anal play. Am also hoping for some full on pegging activity this year after my OH has used 6/7 in dildo on me recently. Cum clean up has also entered our repertoire.
It’s all great for our relationship and I am excited for more to come.
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