Hi all I am so thankful for all your advice honestly I wish I was on here sooner …
I think my issue is with all the porn movies etc we have been watching I just dont feel I can compete especially when I feel he is more turned on by porn and that side of the world … but hey I love him and would of done anything for him but this is a step I’m unsure of … thanks guys xx
Hey lovely thank you for getting I touch and I wish I had your confidence lol xx
Porn is a fantasy, I’m willing to bet that very few people have sex lives that are anywhere near that. It’s easy to get caught up in porn and wish you doing the same things but it’s best to try to remember that what looks like fun in porn has probably taken ages to set up, with constant breaks for recovery etc not to mention the extreme over acting that so often goes with it.
Don’t put yourself under pressure to compete with porn and maybe have chat with him about your feelings. It’s unlikely he’d want you to go ahead with something you’re not fully onboard with 
I agree with @wildflower plus the participants in porn threesomes are not in relationships with each other, they’re actors.
Can you cut out the porn for a while, and enjoy each other?
He might not like the idea, but you shouldn’t feel you have to compete with an artificial set-up and fantasy driven stories.
Stop watching if you don’t like it, and certainly don’t venture into anything you are unsure of.
You might need to be brave if he is set on this course, but it sounds like it is not ok for you. And that should be reason enough.
Could you say something like. ‘I don’t want to watch this. Let’s go and have fun by ourselves’? Or, ‘I don’t feel like watching this, let’s go up and see what happens’? Or even, ‘I don’t want to watch it, I’ll be in the kitchen with a cuppa…’.
Don’t be blinded by love if it asks too much. Being willing to do anything for someone has to be balanced - what do you want? Does he ask? Can you say ‘no’ to his requests? You have the option to leave if you feel pressured and unhappy.
Good luck.
This!! She always has the best advice
There is some brilliant advice already here. I definitely agree that this is something that you need to be completely up for before going ahead with it, and you describe being very apprehensive about it which would indicate you’re probably not ready at this stage which is absolutely fine - it may be something you never want to try.
If it’s something you want to explore then I would suggest letting him watch you self pleasure, talk about one of your previous partners and what they did to you/how they made you feel whilst having sex with your husband (this is good to see how your husband responds, whether it turns him on or whether he gets jealous).
If you ever decide to go ahead with it (and please don’t feel pressured to - it MUST be something you’re both going to feel comfortable with and get pleasure from!) then communication is SO important. Way before you do anything you both need to set out boundaries and limits and these should be non negotiable. Try and discuss every aspect, it may seem too much but it’s so much better to have clear expectations and boundaries. Also have a safe word for during sex and know that if at any point it stops being pleasurable then you can just stop. In this situation, trust is really important - you both need to know that the other will respect your limits and ultimately help you feel safe. Make sure the third person knows what is going on and has clear expectations too - they deserve that respect as well!
And lastly… Have fun with it, whatever you decide to do!
I liked it as a fantasy as the imagination runs wild … also my relationship ship isnt exactly stable … but thank you all so much for your advice x
This is amazing advice thank you I am loving this site I wish I connected much sooner xx
@Curious_couple_20 Could you not broach the subject that actually, this may be a step to far for you. At least right now? You said the list of his fantasies were endless, but what about yours? What about what you want?
Could you redo a list, but with things you both want to try. You could always do it in degrees of things you are 100% game for all the way to things that you would consider, but, not right now? Maybe he then might understand what he is actually asking of you as there could be some things you want that he isn’t sure of.
You said in one of your other replies that your relationship isn’t exactly very stable. I’m sorry to hear that, I can’t imagine bringing another person would help this. But maybe that’s just me.
There are a lot of great replies here and I hope they help. Whatever you decide, just make sure you think it through and its something you want 
Hi @Curious_couple_20 If you have even the tiniest hint of a doubt about this do not do it,it might just be one of those things best left as a fantasy rather than a potential relationship destroyer.
Agree with others that this is best kept as a hot fantasy to use in heat of the moment. I’d suggest it’s important to distinguish between a fantasy you’d both realistically look to try (e.g. bondage, dressing up) and something that’s v hot to think about but you’d be uncomfortable actually doing (you sleeping with another guy) in real life.
Someone mentioned a suction dildo - how about indulging threesome fantasy with that i.e. combining with oral for him whilst you ride the dildo - or alternating between the dildo and him penetrating you. Lots of options of indulging this fantasy without going all the way and getting another person into bed.
@CurvyJilly Love your response. I can’t get enough of the hotwife/cuckold fantasy but irl I think I’d like to only keep it a fantasy.
Thank you
Agree with @wildflower & @WillC that a swingers club would allow you to do as much or as little as you felt comfortable with and people at the club will respect your boundaries. No means no at a swingers club and is strictly followed by the members.
You don’t need to join in fully, just some fun flirting/touching maybe and that might be fun for both of you or give you a chance to back out before things go too far. While sex with someone new/watching your partner sounds fun it’s a lot different to actually live out that fantasy.
Don’t do it if you don’t feel 100% confident with it always talk things through
Communication is a must in this situation. Jealousy destroys a relationship so talk it through. Try going out to a club & let your OH watch you flirt with another guy & make sure it goes no further. Afterwards go home & have a sober conversation about it.
Also a fantasy of mine, mentioned it to the wife got an infantile NO so a fantasy it will remain, I would rather have the wife than have her walk because I pushed her, discussing things will sort it out for you.
This is / was a fantasy of mine also, discussed it with my OH (@FoxyLea87 ) and decided we would give it a go. We discussed all rules etc thoroughly before hand. It was good fun for us, but each couple is different. Communication is the key. And if both parties aren’t 100% sure then I definitely wouldn’t venture into it. Good luck with what ever you decide.
I just hope some of it is of use to someone!