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Hmmmmm.
If it were me, I wouldnât go sucking up to them.
They seem like a horrible pair, and definitely not true friend material.
For the next week, just keep to yourself and enjoy spending time alone, have a laugh with the boys and just be yourself.
Donât pay them too much attention and see how things are in a few days.
There could be many reasons why they are being like this, maybe itâs jealousy.
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To me it sounds like either J over exaggerated what had been discussed and added some of his own insecurities/worries.
Or she is blowing it out of proportions.
I hate when people compare one persons struggles to everyone elses, it really boils my blood and upsets me.
Id suggest trying to talk to each person and see if theres some way to sort things out.
Try getting one of the others to invite you out with others if you can.
It sounds like you say, Z sounds like she is taking the less stressful side of the arguement as she wont be a target herself then. The guys might just be keeping quiet to have an easier time with it.
Talk to J and see what was said during their arguement and see where the rest came from
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I do agree with @Cupc8kes advice.
One day things will move on and Z will probably get some flak again and will probably come to you for support
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Sounds like you upset the lad by mentioning that youâd discussed his penis size, and in turn heâs had a go at her for discussing him. Now sheâs got an ally in the other girl. The more you say youâre upset about them going out without you, the more satisfaction she gets, and the more she will do it. You say you get on fine with the lads. If i was you, iâd just let them get on with it, and not complain about not being invited out. You can make your own uni friends, they donât have to be housemates.
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This is a difficult one as you need to get on with the girls as you are with them next year and Iâm not sure the guys are joining you next year? I think @Cupc8kes is right and try to give it a week or so. I might be worth asking the lads to make sure you are invited when you all go out. I hope things work out but remain positive and strong. Good luck with your studies. @Sophie01
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Sorry to hear youâre having friendship issues, they sound really unpleasant. Itâs a difficult one because you are going to be living with them next year. If it wasnât for that Iâd say youâd be better off finding some new friends. Iâd give it a week and see what the situation is like then. It might be worth getting some advice from the university about your accommodation for next year. This kind of thing happens a lot and you might find that the university can give you some advice. I donât know how much your deposit was but if you decided not to live with them, is it a huge amount that you would loose? It probably is quite a lot but Iâm just checking.
As for what has happened, it sounds like J didnât appreciate Z telling you about the size of his penis, probably due to being insecure (Iâm not sure many guys would be particularly happy knowing that their girlfriend told her friends about their penis size though, maybe Iâm just a bit old fashioned!). J had a go at Z who then lied and said she didnât tell you and that you made it up. It then got exaggerated and then blown out of proportion? I might have read this wrong, sorry if I have!
Iâd give it a bit of time to settle and then explain to the guys who you still get on with what has happened and hopefully they will support you. Sorry youâre going through this, itâs rough when you have to live so closely to people you arenât getting on with.
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@Sophie01 as all the advice you have been given I defo would not go crawling or sucking up to the girls, you just keep your self occupied there seems to be a lack of trust between them and you and to be honest if ones sleeping with them she will back him every time over you I do not know what and how girls treat each other If it was lads I would expect them to fight it out and then forget about it ( thatâs how it used to be not now though) really feel for you hun hope it gets sorted amicably 
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I agree with what others have said and youâre clearly a lovely person so leave them to get on with it for a few days and they will come to realise they are missing you. In the meantime have some âyouâ time and enjoy yourself.
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I had a couple of falling outs with house mates during uni, its quite common when people who donât really know each other suddenly do everything together.
The 1 got so bad between her and the rest of us we spoke to the landlord and he moved her to another of his properties - its a bit away from your situation but is a path you could take in the future if needed!
I agree with the others, give them all some space and just focus on seeing others and studies (itâs exam time, so you could always use that as an excuse for not socialising!) Iâd steer clear of this couple and discussing any sexual antics, as he obviously took offense to it! But good to hear the 2 guys arenât holding anything against you
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Hey, it must be tough and I can definitely put myself in your situation - I get anxious as well in situations like this and it is out of order that that girl throws around words such as âstop being patheticâ. The girl just sounds like too much effort to be around.
If I was you, let the situation cool off for a few days and see what happens next. In the meantime you can still talk to the boys as normal and meet other Uni matesâŚits easy to get frustrated with people who you see 24/7 qt home.
From J and Câs convo⌠J mustâve taken the penis size too personal and added a few things into the convo and with C I think she is most likely jealous of you that youâre able to have a chilled convo with J.
Anyway keep your head up and keep smiling 
there are so many people out there at Uni whoâd love to have a friend like you 
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It sounds like J is the real problem here. Massive red flags. Heâs either incredibly insecure and took your comment as a personal offense and blew it up in his mind, or he is deliberately lying to Z to cause conflict in her relationships. Highly concerning.
Itâs a terribly difficult situation to be in and you canât control whether she believes you or not, but I would suggest itâs worth having an honest, unemotional conversation about exactly what was said and warn her about this concerning behaviour. Beyond that, you canât control how these girls behave, it sounds quite immature and perhaps you would be better off distancing yourself from these friendships.
Regarding your living arrangements, if the situation doesnât resolve and you canât get along living together, it is probably worth talking to your university as they likely have support systems and advice in place for students whose living arrangements have become no longer viable
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Wow sounds like youâve been thrown back into the school yard!
Totally feel for you being trapped in a situation like this and with the out look for future becoming less ideal sharing a flat with them 
The best advice I can give is to not stoop to their immature level, keep any confrontations neutral in the way of not saying anything that could feed their urge to escalate and isolate you even more, theyâll soon get bored. Remember you are more stronger and when they see your not bothered anymore about the petty dramas theyâll come cautiously back to you wanting to be friends.
Maybe make a point of going out with some other friends and doing stuff without them all to show your still getting on with life.
Also about the part where they told you to grow up and stop being pathetic cause of anxiety⌠I canât disagree more!! Anxiety effects everyone differently and can be very debilitating to some so if they have anxiety issues too then they should understand better and grow up themselves, maybe get educated about mental health issues too lol 
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Itâs worth talking to your uni about the accommodation. Sometimes there are ways out of private tenancies, or they may be able to find someone else the landlord and other girls are willing to accept in your stead. Even if you donât think they can do anything about it, itâs definitely worth reaching out and discussing the situation, as you really never know what help they may be able to provide until you discuss it.
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What a crap situation to be stuck in, if it were me I would just do my own thing. Meet up with others you know outside of the house. Focus on you and your studying cos at the end of the day its you and your achievements that matter not some petty nobodies who you might never see again once uni is finished x
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If it where me Iâd be looking for somewhere else! Is there not a site called room finder or something where you can try get rid of youre room and take another! Iâd imagine itâd be horrible living with them for another 2 years and even if it got sorted Iâm sure theyâd bring it back up 
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So firstly it sounds like the lad has some insecurities or is trying to cause trouble for you.
Personally I would think it would be the first.
I know you were only repeating what she had said but in future it may be best if he asks you if anything has been said to ask Z herself.
It sounds to me like C has befriended Z maybe to escape from the nasty comments/being left out herself.
If this was me I would try my best to seem unaffected by it. Keep up being friends with everyone else and be civil with them but be careful what you say around them so it canât be used against you.
Hopefully C will come around and see you are feeling how she did previously. As for z you donât need someone like that in your life.
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Sports clubs n even gym sound like a great idea to meet new people x
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Awww @Sophie01 I really feel for you!
I was in a similar situation when I lived in uni halls, we were a flat of 6 (3 guys/3 girls) and the other 2 girls were nightmares with the bitchiness, so much so that I had to move to a studio flat myself after 4 months. My advice would be that you arenât the issue, youâve been truthful and upfront about your feelings and how youâve been treated, thatâs all you can do, as easy as it is to say than do, please try to let it go over your head and not take the comments to heart, they are clearly being made to make you feel belittled and possibly bow down to Z and let her be in charge.
Can you not speak to your accommodation reps and ask if they have any spare rooms on standby? When I did, I explained the situation and they agreed it wasnât healthy and that they had other rooms available, you just have to fill out some extra paperwork and move yourself between rooms/buildings. Get yourself out the flat more though! Join some clubs or societies, and meet new people, having friends outwith your flatmates will really help and take your mind off things!
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