I was thinking about this the other day and harking back to the early 90s and wished I could just turn the clock back just for one day.
I can just set the scene now a very busy town center pub with a DJ , full of vibrant lively people and loud music . I sip my drink and scan the room for talent and there our eyes met accross a room. I turned away quickly pretending to be shy and checking out who my potential target was with. She was with female friends. I quickly glance towards her and our eyes met again . This time she turned away and then glanced back and smiled.I smiled at her .She said something to one of her friends and she checks me out and approves. She then makes a bee line to the bar and stands a couple of meters away from me and then I move over and offer to get a drink. We then start chatting .
I just miss this type of cat and mouse chase but obviously it is just pure physical attraction at first but its excting landing your target and meeting somebody new.
I know as the saying goes you have to be careful what you wish for and that is true. I am happy with my partner but I do miss the chase .
It will have to be an unacted fantasy.
I am also just wondering if Online dating is just as exciting .
I'm not going to lie I would be worried, concerned and hurt to hear or even think that my OH was having the same thoughts as you. If it's the "cat and mouse" chase you want have you thought about a bit of role play with your partner to act this out?
Online dating whilst in a committed relationship? Why?
i think its probably a common theme to be fair. in the same way some wish they could go back to simpler times without kids / jobs / responsibility. We look back at these times with rose-tinted glasses and see the good bits, but rarely remeber the crap that comes with it.
It doesnt hurt to dream / think as long as thats where it stays. Im sure some of the women on here think exactly the same?
Never know wrote:
I'm not going to lie I would be worried, concerned and hurt to hear or even think that my OH was having the same thoughts as you. If it's the "cat and mouse" chase you want have you thought about a bit of role play with your partner to act this out?
Online dating whilst in a committed relationship? Why?
I was just curious if online dating was just as exciting thats all. Never said I was going to do it.
Its like a three some , I know I will never do it even if my Mrs wanted it. Just an unacted fantasy as this is.
We are active role players but meeting a stanger one is one I wouldn't want to do as I don't think it is right that a lady goes into a pub on her own and I have never actually seen an "unattached" lady going into a pub alone. So to put my Mrs through that would be a no no.
The scenario I described is in fact how I met my Mrs many years ago. Just fantasissing thats all .
I've never wanted to go back to my younger days they were hell, but I do dream of meeting my Doctor, who is in my avatar.
mysteron wrote:
Never know wrote:
I'm not going to lie I would be worried, concerned and hurt to hear or even think that my OH was having the same thoughts as you. If it's the "cat and mouse" chase you want have you thought about a bit of role play with your partner to act this out?
Online dating whilst in a committed relationship? Why?
I was just curious if online dating was just as exciting thats all. Never said I was going to do it.
Its like a three some , I know I will never do it even if my Mrs wanted it. Just an unacted fantasy as this is.
We are active role players but meeting a stanger one is one I wouldn't want to do as I don't think it is right that a lady goes into a pub on her own and I have never actually seen an "unattached" lady going into a pub alone. So to put my Mrs through that would be a no no.
The scenario I described is in fact how I met my Mrs many years ago. Just fantasissing thats all .
Fair enough, I think I'm just a bit old fashioned in my views.
Online dating... well, I have had a fair share of dreadful experiences, loads of anonymous messages telling me I am bloody ugly, fat, dull and generally "undateable"... Lots of people with personal issues use dating sites just to bully those who are searching for a real date (does this make them feel better??).
Not everyone has great and cool experiences with online dating.
I guess many people keep on wondering what does something they have never experienced/can never experience feel like. I am a 28yo never-been-kissed virgin and I would give anything for the opportunity NOT to be single for just one day...
Oh god I'd be horrified if my OH made a thread like this! Fantasy is one thing, but not for one second do I wish I was single again for a day, and I'd be very hurt if my OH did too.
I see what you're saying and I know you don't mean it badly, but this subject is very iffy for me as I'm old fashioned like Never Know.
I agree, hearing my OH was feeling like this would make me somewhere between a little worried and completely broken hearted. But then, I never had this "cat and mouse" stuff. I met my OH young and we spent most of our time talking on IM. I've never approached a woman in a bar and frankly, would probably be too terrified to!
To be honest, even if I had the chance to be single for a day, I wouldn't do it. Mostly because I love my OH and never want to be away from her even if it is just for a day. Sure I have some fantasies, but none of them are even close to being worth risking my relationship for. Secondly, I find the whole idea of chatting up girls in a pub to be absolutely terrifying, as stated above. I'd probably be really bad at it.
I think I'd be a bit gutted if my OH said something like this. Personally I hated my life before OH and although I didn't really hate being single, I didn't enjoy it either, I love our relationship and feeling secure and loved, nothing could make me want anything other than our awesome relationship
Honestly guys Its just me fantasising a little . I do this a lot when writing roleplays except this time I decided to post something on here . Its nothing serious. .
But i did also enjoy my life even before meeting my Mrs
i think its the "
I wish I could be single just for a day again"
bit that is putting people on the wrong track, doesnt sound like you want to be single for the day, just think about it some times.
mysteron wrote:
I don't think it is right that a lady goes into a pub on her own.
Never mind the rest of your post, what on earth is up with this?!
LibraLover wrote:
mysteron wrote:
I don't think it is right that a lady goes into a pub on her own.
Never mind the rest of your post, what on earth is up with this?!
Just me being old fashioned. I suppose.
Just something i have never actually witnessed if being honest. Most girls tend to be with a partner or amongst other female friends but never seen them alone .
I certainly wouldn't allow my mrs to be unescorted into a pub
mysteron wrote:
LibraLover wrote:
mysteron wrote:
I don't think it is right that a lady goes into a pub on her own.
Never mind the rest of your post, what on earth is up with this?!
Just me being old fashioned. I suppose.
More like being incredibly sexist and promoting fear in women.
mysteron wrote:
I certainly wouldn't allow my mrs to be unescorted into a pub
Why not? If you don't mind me asking!
I have been in pubs alone plenty of times, I used to go once a week when I had to wait an hour between my train and bus. What do you think is going to happen to us poor women if we're alone in a pub?
And if my OH didn't "allow" me to go to pubs alone, firstly I'd probably have pneumonia from waiting for him in the rain, then he would have to have a serious attitude change or he would be gone.