I've been quiet on here for a few months, so before I get into the main bit of this thread I just wanted to explain a bit of the back story.
I broke up with a guy last year after being with him for 3 years. I've come to realise this relationship was unhealthy, and may be considered emtionally abusive, although he did in unintentionally. It turns out he was abused throughout his childhood by his Dad, and never having spoken to anyone about it, it effected our relationship in a lot of ways.
The past 6 months have been difficult for me. I've had severe mental health difficulties, but I'm pleased to say I'm still here, and I'm getting help, albeit slowly. A combination of this and the medication has meant my sex drive has all but dissappeared, only occasionally popping up. Because of this I've been pretty quiet on these forums.
I identify as pansexual, and have recently started a relationship with an asexual panromantic female. I know when I used to read the forums a lot, people were great at comign up with ideas on things to do to inprove the sensual and romantic side of a relationship. As things stand, the sexual side of a relationship isn't open to us, and that is something I am okay with, and accepted (I knew how she felt before we started the relationship). However, I'm struggling to think of sensual things we can do together. For example, cuddling is fine, and we really enjoy it. I've suggested massages and hot rocks, and it's something we're going to try.
But I guess my question is, what do you guys do that isn't sexual but is still intimate to show how you feel/have that closeness? Have you got any suggestion of things we could try? :)
If you've read all of this, thank you so much.