Hi @OCDv8 
Welcome to the forum!
As @Deanna32 says, this is a public forum open to everyone to discuss sex toys, kinks, anything sexual (or non sexual!) It is not a hook up site and everyone’s opinion is welcome.
There are many threads that incorporate your interests if you use the search function I’m sure you’ll find lots of information.
A good recent one is Crossdressers of LH.