I’ve got a fwb and it’s been a while since we’ve seen each other and I’m kind of worried to ask to use lube when having sex now we’ve never had to use it before but I’m finding I’m having to use it even if I’m solo playing so basically is it a bad thing to ask as I don’t want him thinking it’s something he’s doing wrong
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Absolutely not. Everyone is different - I’d mention it and you might get an answer you didn’t expect 
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Definately not ….. its all about pleasure and if your not enjoying it then its not on.
Bodies change with time, im she he’ll enjoy you lubing him up tooo
Using lube is a good thing as it makes intimacy much more comfortable especially during the menopause. We use it all the time as i can dry out and having sex can make me sore and uncomfortable without it.
I’ll try and introduce it next time just last time I did with someone else it wasn’t a great experience so kinda got that in my head that it will be taken in the wrong way
Not an issue to ask and there are so many types of lube and stuff to add fun to the play and sex.
My wife gets so wet I have to sometimes wipe my duck with a towel to get her fluids off so I can feel her pussy.
For quickies on a few occasions she was dry and I didnt do foreplay. Sometimes you just want to get to the pounding and lube helps you get there quicker.
Not at all. Stress can cause dryness, tiredness can cause dryness, medication can cause dryness. If you need it, use it. If he’s got a problem, he is the problem, not you
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Absolutely agree with @Tenshadesandme ! It’s firstly nothing to be ashamed of whatsoever, and secondly if you need to use it, then use it!
I’m sorry to hear you’ve had a negative experience when trying to introduce it previously, but I can promise you that 99.99% of people will be happy to do whatever it takes to make you feel comfortable 
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I wouldn’t stress over it. Using lube should not ever be an issue and if it is to a partner, then I’d suggest the person is not worth your time and energy. Sorry to be blunt however that’s how I see it.
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Definitely not. Consider it a sexy fun addition to your time together. Not just for your practical purpose but as part of foreplay for you both. Think about massaging it in to both your bits, licking a tasty flavoured one off you both etc
Over the last few months H and I have increasing used it in lots of different ways, and love shopping for new flavours. x
Hey not at all! Lube is a key part to any sex and it should be used all the time without any judgments 
Lube up. Should be possible to see it as part of the fun
Bought some of the love honey birthday cake lube, its really scrummy.
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I swear by it @user763 - Its delicious right 
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We have to use a little now for most things, but that’s because of me and not my partner, she has always been ok even though she had passed the menopause now.
I’m struggling to be 100% erect these days so the initial ‘getting in’ just needs a little help. I’ve never produced PC either so that can’t help.
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As people mature and get up there in age , most need some lube . From my perspective I need a little , but too much and not enough feeling those beautiful pussy lips gripping my cock and my erection will soften up .
No issue at all.
My wife and I always use a little lube. Makes sex more comfortable, and therefore enjoyable.
I know we’ve come to the time of needing lube but haven’t had the balls to bring it up yet as she’s self conscious anyway. She’s post menopause and we don’t have sex very often but when we do it feels so dry. When I finger her pussy before hand she feels moist but when I put my dick in it’s just not the same as it used to be. I’ve got lube anyway for my toys so will have have to bring up the courage to use it next time we get down to it
I’m reading a book just now called “come as you are” by Emily Nagoski. It goes into arousal non-concordance. In a nutshell, a genital response doesn’t always match your brains response. You can be “up for it” mentally, but that doesn’t mean your sexual organs will so the “normal” response, ie hard or wet. Listen to her words, not her pussy. And buy some lube!
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