I (30m) am happily married to a wonderful woman (28) for the past 4 years.
I met my wife when she was 21. Coming from a traditional Middle Eastern background, I used to be insecure and jealous about her having slept with a lot of men. She comes from a western background and grew up much more liberal. I always knew that this was my problem and not hers, and worked on myself to accept that as I love her.
Fast forward a few years and I absolutely love the idea that my wife had slept with a lot of men and it fuels our bedroom talk ie she loves it when I call her a slut etc. Also, I realize this is why she always satisfies so well haha
Our sex life is amazing and I could not be happier! I wish I realized how stupid my insecurities were earlier but it’s never too late. I’m so lucky to have a sexual wife.
I’m glad you’re embracing her past now, nobody can change their past whether they want to or not and what’s in the past is never something to be jealous of. Enjoy your sexually experienced wife!
As others have said, it’s great that you are accepting your wife’s past. I’m all for a progressive society and equality and don’t believe anyone should be ashamed of their sexual history or be shamed by others
Hey great first post and yes I can see how you would of felt insecure at the time and so pleased you’ve managed to work on it to turn something into a positive, kudos to you
My OH has had a lot more sexual partners than I’ll ever have, was one of the first things she told me about before we became a serious couple. One thing I do is never judge anyone for their past, as that’s what it is, the past. And it also comes in handy when she’s really horny and tells me stories about some of the guys she’s had in the past while fucking my brains out!
Somewhat similar experience as I evolved. I grew up pretty sheltered and intimidated by sex. Ive only had 4 partners myself and feel like I held that against women at times.
Early while dating my wife and I bumped into two guys within a span of a week she had slept with. One of those being a brother of her next door neighbor. She was brave enough to admit it to me out of fear it would come out at some point. The discussion evolved into her admitting to having a lot of sexual partners in her past (I’ll keep the number she spit out to myself out of respect). I held it against her, albeit subtly, for a long time.
Fast forward all these years and I’ve watched her have sex with two other men. Life really does change.
