I've noticed while having sex sometimes, my other half, while running his hands over my body, pinching my nipples etc, will let his hand go up to my neck and just grip it slightly. I've found it an amazing turn-on, because oof two things really, I think I like things rougher than he would be willing to give me, and also because it makes me feel very submissive. But does anyone with similar kink experience think this might mean he wants to take things a bit rougher too...? I was actually quite surprised myself when he did it!
Don't get me wrong, it's not like we aren't quite kinky already, we've done lots of spanking (with paddle too, but I like his hands), anal, a little tying up... But I would love more things that make me more helpless like him holding me down, etc. When we discussed it before he didn't really like anything that made it seem like I was being forced. I on the other hand find that rather delightful... but I haven't pushed the point.
I'm sure I'll ask him, but wondered if anyone with similar kinks had any thoughts... I didn't want to ask him outside of sex because he might not even have realised he was doing it, and might end up feeling bad about it!