Hi , I fully understand why you asked this question to the ladys rather than the men, as non of my friends would even contemplate a convo about their toys. Can not picture Friday night in the pub discussing tenga vs flashlight, prostate vs ball stimulation style conversations occurring!
I can however say that on here, thanks to the anonymousness (us that a word?) people happily share tips/experiences, so here's my view on toys to start with (I have used many toys over the year)
I happily recomend the tenga eggs as a good starting point. They are relatively inexpensive, and with a little care last several uses. Perhaps experiment by getting a bumpy and a smooth texture to compare preferences, as I have learnt over the years large bumps /nodules do little for me, but fine smooth texture work great.
From there I would say a Tracey cox stroker, tenga 3d or flashlight sex in a can would all be worth a look.
Are you looking to explore any other types of toys?