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Hi all! I’ve read through this forum extensively, and I think it’s time to make a profile and be present and contribute :smiling_face_with_three_hearts::smiling_face_with_three_hearts:

I’ve been with my now husband since I was a teenager - that’s 16 years this year! While I love him and our son, I’m not going to lie but I have been sexually repressed for most of that time. I remember being pretty raunchy back in the early days, but then I went on the pill and it was bye bye libido. Sprinkle on low self esteem and you have the makings of a non existent sex life. I would force myself to have sex with my husband (he would literally beg me which definitely did not help because I would feel even more terrible), and then cry in the shower after. It was horrible! I wanted to want him, but it just wasn’t there. Then we had a baby… and then my body got absolutely destroyed and I kick myself everyday for thinking I was ‘fat’ and not sexy back when I was absolutely bangin’! Now after having a baby (terrible pregnancy, terrible recovery), I would give anything to have that body back :joy:

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This post is not all woe is me, because about 4 months ago I woke up absolutely raging horny, and it hasn’t stopped. My poor husband is literally scared of me that I will jump
Him :joy: You would think this would be a dream come true for him, but he said to me ‘I guess I got used to you not wanting me’ which broke my heart! So basically our roles have reversed :sweat_smile: I know what it’s like to be begged and pressured into sex (and the dark spiral that can lead to) so I know that he will slowly develop his libido again and i will be there waiting in the wings - ready to pounce :joy::joy::joy:

In the meantime, I’ve been catching up of a decades’ worth of finding out what I like to see and what I would like to do and have done to me! I had such a negative view of porn and sexual fantasies (I don’t even know how that even occurred?) but again I’m kicking myself for thinking this and all the lost sexy time I could have been having!!! I honestly feel like I’ve been reborn - and I haven’t even made a purchase yet :joy:

This forum has already boosted my confidence and I’m very excited about my sexy time journey ahead!!
Looking forward to sharing with you all xx

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@DevilishDan Lovely introduction. Hello and welcome to the forum. :wave:

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Hi :wave: @DevilishDan welcome to the forum :slightly_smiling_face:

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Hi @DevilishDan

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Hi @DevilishDan and welcome
Think you need to have several good chats with him over a period of time… Youre sudden boost of sexual desire might confuse him a little… :heart: Glad for you that the feelings have come back… Have fun and get some toys for the solo occasions.

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Oh yes 100% more conversations are planned … he’s just not someone you can bombard with these sorts of things, he will just retreat further back into his shell :sweat_smile: he doesn’t really know the depth of my ‘knew awakening’ is, definitely can’t suggest a MMF right off the bat :joy:
I will slowly coax him out :heart_eyes_cat::heart_eyes_cat:

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@DevilishDan
You go girl… This all sounds very exciting for you… keep us posted. What’s you’re initial fantasies if you dont mind me asking ??

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Hi!! I’m sorry but have to say I’m an admirer of your posts :heart_eyes:

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Thank you so much :smiling_face::smiling_face:

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Greetings and Welcome @DevilishDan :sunglasses:

Your intro was without a doubt one of the best ones I have read, and I have read a ton of them. Congratulations on getting back on track and good luck having both your sexual drives align.

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Welcome to the club - totally with you there as before I had my girls I had such a low opinion of my body - but when I look back I had a stunning body

Children can ruin a sex life but it’s good you are in a good place now - just keep talking and trying different things ( don’t forget to ask him what he wants to do sexually as I find my husband is a lot kinkier than me with fantastic ideas)

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I find I’m really into bukkake which we have dabbled in although I want to be covered :melting_face: I really like the idea of a threesome and foursome although in reality I don’t know if I would be able to do it. Early days I guess :sweat_smile:
I’m also pretty keen on the idea of going to a swingers party, maybe just to have other people watch us at first, and watch others - at first.
Anal my husband was reeeally into back in the day and I was a firm no. Got incredibly drunk one night and tried it for him when I was like 18 and don’t have a great memory of it :joy: keen to try it again properly for his sake but would have to build up to it. Don’t mind a rogue finger but that’s my limit right now. I’m more self conscious about the mess involved, so will research that a bit more to get some pointers.
While I’m still quite self conscious about my body (but learning to accept and love this is what I am now) Ive always loved the feeling of being naked so am super keen for nudist beach, or if I didn’t have neighbours (or a child :stuck_out_tongue_closed_eyes:) I’d be naked in my house/backyard constantly. A holiday with just the husband and a private pool to be naked I feel is an achievable baby steps goal I think!
Porn wise I seem to be into everything, but find I circle back to cumshots and creampies :sweat_drops:

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Thank you!! I’ve always liked to keep things real and grounded :smiling_face_with_three_hearts:
I know we will both be realigned one day. Here’s hoping for a quick turn around but I’ll be patient :smiling_face:

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Hey @DevilishDan :wave::wave:

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Mentally I feel great which is something I haven’t felt in a very very very long time but have always been pretty easy going and ‘what ever will be will be’. Husband is more of a stress head and worries about money and work a lot so that definitely hinders his libido (not sure if realises this so will definitely be in one of our future convos). I remember he was always coming up with new positions and basically the ‘leader’ of our sex lives. Now he seems to default to ‘whatever you want to do’ which no doubt is a consequence from my low libido years and would take what I would give him :persevere:. So basically have to restructure the sexual part in his brain to get kinky again :stuck_out_tongue_closed_eyes::heart_eyes_cat::sweat_drops:

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@DevilishDan Hello and welcome to the forum.

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Hi and welcome to the forum. Lots of useful info and a supportive, friendly place.

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I love this, you’re throwing yourself right in. Good for you :clap:t2:

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Hi @DevilishDan :wave:
Welcome to the forum. I’m glad you’re in a good place again now and I’m sure your husband will learn to appreciate and embrace the more sexually adventuous you.

Just a friendly edit though. Life on LH starts at 18, so I’ve made acouple of very small adjustments to your first post. I hope you don’t mind.

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Thanks for sharing! Welcome to the forum!

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