I have read the forums for a while but have always been too nervous to post but here goes:
I have been with my wife for 7 years of dating and 3 1/2 years of marriage. We are both now 31yrs old. Before marriage she had a strict no sex policy and I repected that. We would play with each other every couple of weeks ( i would have prefered much more frequent but everything was going to change after we got married and lived together)
Outside the bedroom we get on so well
Nothing changed and 3 1/2 years later i do not know what to do. I have tried everything that i can think of to spice up our sex life and make it more interesting. We have sex 2 -3 a month ( generally on a sunday morning) and it is exactly the same ever time and requires a lot of lube every time.
I have asked her repeatly about what she would like to do and she just replies whatever you want but never suggests anything and i have 6 times sat down with her and tried to discuss what I see as a problem and she doesn't. I alway get the same answer back at the end: I will TRY
I have bought her expensive ( and i mean the national debt of a small country) underwear that she loves and wears to work then returns home and puts on her PJ's. I have bought slutty underwear that got worn once then put away, I bought her a vibrator that she "likes" but does not use, gave her money and she bought herself a vibrator that she does not use. i bought the beginners bondage set that i thought was fantastic and it got put away.
I have now given up and stopped trying to initiate sex as feel like i am begging.
Sorry for the long story but i am so frustrated and just don't know what to do. Anyone out there that can help or suggest anything? I will try anything.