Hello. A couple of beginners questions. If we buy a strap on harness how do we know what dildo to buy that suits that harness or are they one size fits all. Does anyone have any links to a beginners setup to start with . I can comfortably take two or three of her fingers in my arse now…
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Pretty much all strap on have an O ring, so depending on the size of the ring you can find a dildo to accommodate it. Normally strap on kits come with a dildo so I’d go for one on them, I got the Tracey Cox one which came with 2, a slim one for beginners and a much bigger one, so I’d look at getting something like that.
If you buy one without, search the LH site for anal dildos you’ll find ones with a flared based/suction cup like this
Make sure it’s the right size and you’re good to go.
Make sure you get some decent lube as you’ll be using a lot, I’d recommend the LH discovery lube, it’s fairly good priced and really good for anal play.
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@bert well done and welcome to the world of pegging
As said the harness should have 3 rings that will hold a variety of dildos and hold them secure
Try to use dildos without balls - the fitting on the harness is easier
Again start thin and about 6 inch - but before don’t forget to stretch the anus - use butt plugs and lots of lube to tease open your hole
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We started with and still use the Tracy Cox strap on kit from LH
It comes with two dildos…
The first is definitely a beginner’s beginner dildo…used for about 30 seconds
Then moved up to the second which was decent enough to gauge if it was something were into
Now we buy new dildos to use with this harness as I graduate to larger sizes….
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The previous replies have given perfect advice! So I’ll just say, congrats and welcome to pegging 
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Lots of good replies here. I will just say thay the harness information usually tells you what size dildos it will accomodate, so using that information, you know what you can and cannot use. You are not going to want to start too big anyway. As others have said, since you are just starting out, I would go with a kit as it will come with a harness with two or more compatable dildos.
Also, as you purchase new dildos, remember they need to have a flared base so you do not lose them up there
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Happy days to you! Hope it turns out like everything you imagined it to be when you get to try out for the first time 
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most strap ons have several o rings and buying more is cheap, just buy any o ring or penis ring from almost anywhere
from there its just a matter of finding one of your rings that fits over the dildo you wanna use and…voila
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@bert it’s great news - I suggest start with a narrow dildo - length is less important but too wide will hurt
Choose the harness well
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