When you're on your quest for new friends stay away from the ones like me! lol. x
Nah your cool :) I'm off to bed now got work tomorrow thanks for the chat x
jimtech wrote:
Hi just wanted some advice on what's a good way to make new friends as my current situation has change a lot
I have recently separated from my wife which I am hopefully going repair our relationship . And to make things worse a couple of months ago I had a breakdown and now am on anti depressants for social anxiety . so tough question really how do I go about making new friends when I find talking in reality very difficult, and the whole time I want to repair the relationship with my wife.
Wow. Bit close to home for me. Well, the AD's do work, but you may need to try a few - took me about 3 goes, but found one which works for me (Sertraline). Push you GP to see a specialist, if needs be.
How to make friends.... Hmm.. Wish I knew.... Well, everyone tells me to get out there and just 'do' stuff - so I will tell you the same. In my own situation, I have found that as my mood improves, so does the relationship with my OH.
I'm actually very interested to see how you guys say to make friend because I don't have anyone anymore :( lol.
I've made a couple of good friends on here who I've exchanged email addresses with. one who is 10 years younger and the other who is 14 years older than me and he is now my best friend and like a big brother to me.
Apart from that I'm usually the instigator of arranging social nights out with work, drinks or a meal. I go to church and i'm part of a local ammater drama grroup.
So sorry about you relationship. I hope things get better and you can work things out. x
Thanks for everyones support :)
I will give many things a try . Funny how things have changed so much in the times now everyone is on the internet it does seem so much easier to talk online as apposed to going out ;)
Guess ill be on here alot more x
Things are a lot easier online, I have to admit; there's a sense of safety being in your own house getting to know someone. A lot of my stronger friendships were where I initially met the person online and got to know them before hand.
I had a mini breakdown last year due to stress. I made some good friends on here who encouraged me not to worry so much and be much more spontaneous. I have two forum friends in particular who help me keep my sanity. I communicate with both via email and IM, I fully understand why Lovehoney don't recommend members to use email, but it is a shame because I have made some wonderful friends that way.
But what I would say is that by being active on here offering advice where I can, I hope I have made friends but more importantly it has increased my confidence in talking to people in the real world.
I agree with my best friend Mrs Average, if you can try to get involved with your local community, l have found this is a good way to meet new people, not necessarily for dating, just to build up your confidence. I became a school governor years ago, I had to be persuaded to give it a go, because I felt I had nothing to offer. But I found that I could make a difference, which was great for my confidence (and CV) and I had to learn to talk to anyone from young children to the leader of the county council.
I would also say that since being active on here I am a lot more confident around women as I used to be quite shy around them, now I have many female friends.
I hope you are able to resolve your issues soon.
Thankyou Hampshire great advice your right about being more confident online in the last ten years over than my wife I have never had a female friend apart from the odd chat with her friends . I have spoken to more women on here in less than a week ;)
New years coming, gonna be positive and find myself again. :-)