heya guys so im a guy and im married to my beautiful wife yes a woman but i was wondering does it make me gay to like anal sex to my self or to have say for example have my wife do me in the ass witha strap on or something, im not atracted to guys in any way, i dont sit there one day and look at some porn and think i'd love him to do me in the ass like that or nothing like that, i have zero intrest in guys.
but not so long ago i kinda hinted to my wife to maybe buy the toy joy strapless strap on double ended 7 inch dildo and have some fun and new experiencesand i say thet one toy cause she can be pleasured too at the same time, now i have used my wifes dildos from time to time ( extreamly cleaned afterwards of coarse ) but i enjoy it and i would love to tell my wife but when i hinted to to her she said but that for gay guys and your not gay i told he not really but not spoke since.
Male anal stimulation is one of those things that has been stigmatized and immasculated, but honestly it is one of the most rewarding explorations you can have when it comes to self pleasuring. It can be embarassing to talk about to your significant other, or to other lads, so it never really gets brought up, but it is perfectly normal and by no means determines if someone is gay or straight.
It is worth thinking about having a conversation with your wife and trying to explain to her that your desires are not only natural but valid and deserving of attention.
But if I was your wife, I'd be so mad at you for using my sex toys. You might say that you cleaned them wella fterwards but if you didn't cleaned them properly, it might cause her an infection. If you really wanna explore anal play, you should buy your own toys
But if I was your wife, I'd be so mad at you for using my sex toys. You might say that you cleaned them wella fterwards but if you didn't cleaned them properly, it might cause her an infection. If you really wanna explore anal play, you should buy your own toys
trust me boiling water and some soap and then a sex toy cleaner after that so yeah i would say very clean plus the silicone one we has i use a condom on it the glass ones we have has are easyer to clean
Before I answer your question, I would definitely suggest buying your own sex toys for anal play. You mentioned that one is silicone and that's great as it isn't porous and can be properly sanitised (so need for a condom!) but if you have other toys made from things such as Jelly Rubber and PVC then it doesn't matter what cleaning methods you use as they cannot be properly cleaned. You definitely shouldn't be sharing any toys made from these materials.
Onto the topic at hand, does liking anal play make you gay? Absolutely not. It's unfortunately still stigmatised and assumed that it does, but that's not the case. It's actually a very popular type of play amongst guys - although unfortunately not many admit it away from these forums due to that stigma - and there's nothing wrong or gay about it. Guys have the prostate back there (otherwise known as the p-spot) and this is said to be the equivalent to the female g-spot and can feel great when stimulated.
If you use the search function above then you'll find lots of posts from people in similar positions, along with plenty of advice for enjoyable fun and suggestions on how to talk about it with your partner 😀 .
Before I answer your question, I would definitely suggest buying your own sex toys for anal play. You mentioned that one is silicone and that's great as it isn't porous and can be properly sanitised (so need for a condom!) but if you have other toys made from things such as Jelly Rubber and PVC then it doesn't matter what cleaning methods you use as they cannot be properly cleaned. You definitely shouldn't be sharing any toys made from these materials.
Onto the topic at hand, does liking anal play make you gay? Absolutely not. It's unfortunately still stigmatised and assumed that it does, but that's not the case. It's actually a very popular type of play amongst guys - although unfortunately not many admit it away from these forums due to that stigma - and there's nothing wrong or gay about it. Guys have the prostate back there (otherwise known as the p-spot) and this is said to be the equivalent to the female g-spot and can feel great when stimulated.
If you use the search function above then you'll find lots of posts from people in similar positions, along with plenty of advice for enjoyable fun and suggestions on how to talk about it with your partner 😀
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I just wanted to clarify here that silicone is porous.
The only materials which aren't are metal and glass.
Also, to answer the OP, I just wanted to add that anal pleasure has nothing to do with your sexuality and certainly doesn't make you gay. You could even want to have sex with a man, and that wouldn't make you gay. Basically, the only thing which makes you gay is if you decide you're gay. And that's it.Â
To me, saying a certain sex act will determine your sexuality, or even change it, is like saying if you eat Indian food you'll turn into an Indian.Â
Also, as the others have said, please don't use your wife's toys without her consent. Forgetting all the potential for cross contamination, ruining her toys or giving her an infection, it's a gross invasion of privacy. I encourage my partner to use toys, but if he used something of mine without asking, I would go batsh*t crazy. #JustsayinÂ
I would recommend you begin by exprimenting with some other anal toys (your own!) and bringing them into the bedroom. Pegging might be a bit of a big ask for your wife to consider straight away. Why not introduce her slowly by telling her you're going to wear a butt plug the next time you have sex? That way you get you enjoy anal sensations but she doesn't need to be involved in any way other than she usually is, and when she sees how much it turns you on it might just spark her interest to explore this area with you. Who knows, in a few months you might be back shopping for that strap on!Â
You enjoying anal play no more makes you gay than it does me (I'm a straight woman). Sexual orientation is about who you find yourself romantically and/or sexually attracted to, not the sex acts you enjoy.
Like others have said, I'd be mad if a partner used my toys without asking, even if they cleaned them to surgical standards.
Since homosexuality means attracted to the same gender, putting things in your bum does not mean you are gay.
Definition aside, gay means different things to different people. How you identify is your decision, how other people identify you is out of your control. If you describe your actions and preferences to me I will label you according to my own system. Some people are going to think your preference means you are gay.
Why are you concerned how you are others label you and why is it so important that you dodge the label?
The only wayto fairly call someone according to their preference is to say that 'they like some things but not others, and this depends entirely on circumstance.'
No definitely not gay. My hubby says it's not fair to have the p-spot situated there and it would be so much easier if it wasn't. I imagine a lot of men would think the same, even if it just stopped the stigma attached to male anal sex and worries that they may be gay (not that there's anything wrong with being gay) but many straight men question this, the same as you or your oh are. It's just bad because body design that's all. Although lots of women love bum play too (including myself).
You haven't said if your oh likes it too as that may just give her an idea of why you like it, if she gets to experience it on herself. Maybe showing her this discussion will help allay her fears. 😊
As others have said please don't use her toys, myself and my oh are very open with each other but he would never use mine nor I use his apart from one which is glass and one which I was from rtunate to test and I had the first go on it lol. It's like sharing toothbrushes ( you just don't) 😖
It's a very different answer for everyone! I am very much a straight man with no sexual attraction to men but that didn't stop me and my long term girlfriend having a mmf threesum! Infact giving a blowjob and having anal sex while she watched was one of our best sexual nights together.
I've always enjoyed anal play but never thought it was gay. Had fun with guys as a fun thing and not a love thing(if that makes sense) being attracted to guys is different from having just enjoying sex. Lucky enough to have friends that think the same. Often enjoy using a dildo when alone! If a woman can enjoy anal sex why can't a man? It's only sex.