Masturbating but OH doesn't know....

EmilyB21 wrote:


I would adore him and I to have mutual masturbation one day, that is one of my big fantasies with him x

Why not let him "catch" you one day. Never know where it might lead.

My wife and I both masturbate - though I am much more active than she is. I would encourage you to explore telling him about it, and I agree with others that he may well find it a turn-on its own right. I know I certainly love to hear it when my wife tells me she felt the urge to masturbate whilst away on business - or when I was away on business. In fact, I would be delighted if she did so more often, provided, of course, it did not diminish her appetite for the real thing.

However, a word of caution. Whilst masturbating is a 'normal' and quite healthy thing to do, it can get pushed to extremes, particulalry when using any kind of pornography. This can lead to you seeking a greater and greater "buzz" to excite you, and ultimately lead to a lot of wasted time! That said, I am speaking as a man, and from what I have understood from women in my life who have masturbated, they have done so more for a quick, pleasurable release.

Good luck either way. A caring and considerate partner will listen and take the time to understand things from your own point of view.