I had been with my first 'proper' boyfriend for 4 years but we broke up a couple of months ago. He was the first guy I had sex with and although I had masturbated a few times it was not something I was really into at all and didn't feel a big need to do it. I had looked at a couple of toys as I knew some of my friends had them but he was not keen on the idea so I never got one.
We have been split up almost 3 months now, and it is actually a bit embarassing to me, but have found myself getting turned on quite often at random moments and have started to masturbate quite frequently. I got talking with my closest girlfriend who is also single at the moment and her advice was I should be using a dildo or vibrator and I felt like I was the only person on the planet not using one!
Do others masturbate more when single than in a relationship or just enjoy it whatever their situation?
There is nothing wrong with you. Having been used to regular sex your body hormones are keeping your sex drive at high levels. I also get the overwhelming urge to masturbate when ever my husband goes away on business. I have s suction cup dildo and s rabbit vibrator to get me where I want to be. I would recommend getting a rabbit and play with it to get the most out of it. A dildo is also an option and the suction cup can be used hands free in the shower. Do feel embarrassed or ashamed. masturbation is a normal reaction to satisfy a need. We like doing it as well as have sex . 😎
Hi newbiejen, sorry to hear that you split up recently. For me I only have solo play, and only tend to masterbate once a week. I say go for it and have a nice time, best wishes.
after being sing for over 7 years & never having solo play always felt wrong to having a new found love off me time every opportunity i get im entertaining myself i found a FB but he didnt seam to get (even after me explaining i need a clit stimulation so now entertaining myself instrad nothing wrong with it sex is ment to be fun so decided to have has much as possible next step is going to a club
It sounds very normal! I masturbate when I feel like it, no matter if I'm in a relationship or not. If I'm having lots of sex, I'll probably feel like masturbating less often, but that's not always the case.
Sex toys are really fun! For a beginner, I'd recommend a bullet vibrator, a wand, a g spot vibrator and a textured realistic dildo. For example:
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I'm in a long term relationship and I do more solo play than sex with my partner. He also likes to watch me play and then we have sex after I've climaxed. I wouldn't say there is anything wrong with being the way you are feeling right now. Don't feel bad or embarrassed about wanting to play with yourself or with toys. It's natural whether you are in a relationship or not.
This is very normal, especially if you have a good sex drive so dont worry about it. Many women use toys and masturbate in relationships and when single so just do what you need to do!
My boyfriend started to travel for work a couple of few ago and could be away for a couple of weeks and during these trips I got incredibly horny with only my fingers to take care of business. After the second or third trip I told him about this and that I wanted to get a dildo for when he was away. He was quite excited by this and I've been using a toy since then which I really enjoy. Because of our situation I have sex with my dildo or vibrator more than regular sex but I don't look on this as second best as it keeps me satisfied.
We all have physical needs and desires. Whether we are Male or female, short or tall, younger old, white or black, gay or straight and the millions of other variables. If you have a desire, and you are not hurting others, then go for it. We all need some self love and self appreciation and awareness!
I do it once in the morning and once before bed. Sometimes a few times if im having a lie in on Sunday :P relationship status has not affected this
Masturbation is 100% normal and natural. Do it whenever you feel like it. So long as its not taking over your life then its totally healthy. What is not healthy, is being with someone who is not willing to explore with you so hurrah for you now being single!
Both me and my husband mastburbate alone and together during foreplay, usually with toys as this enhances the experience.
Self love and self awareness is important, so enjoy it!!
On those times when I've been between relationships I've masturbated miuch more, almost daily. I always use toys. My OH likes watching me use my toys and it's often part of our foreplay - or afterplay, if I haven't cum with him.
I've always thought it was perfectly natural and nothing to be ashamed of, we all need the buildup of pleasure and release.
I have recently became single I think I masturbated alot more when I was with my partner, but I'm now just getting the horny urge back, so have been masturbating a bit I'm starting to want to get back into my kinky self wearing the things that turns me on. Because I'm in a house share I'm limited to the bedroom which is ok I suppose as it has a loo and shower in there, So I can really get as messy and sticky as I want, Just can't make to much noise
I have a partner but I still need tomasterbate
Sounds completely normal to me and we need to do something to relieve the urges and sex drive! My husband works overseas usually twice a year for 6 weeks at a time and I get extremely horny when he is away so of course I masturbate more at this time.
I felt slightly embarassed to telling my husband I wanted to order and use a dildo but he got very excited and was very supportive of the idea so don't worry if you want to use one, they are very pleasureable!
Hey i have bought toys and my partner knows nothing about them, i love masturbating, i love getting them out when noone else is in the house, i have just purchased a suction remote vibrator and can't wait to try it out stuck to various places around the house,